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After twelve years.. - November 30th 2009, 08:03 PM

Last wednesday, when my dad was rushed to hospital, my mum spoke to me that night and asked me if i could wait a while to send a letter to her parents for a months or so, (who i havnt seen in twelve years), because of what happend. I promised her i wouldnt, thing is, i sent one that morning.

Now they all think i havnt written one, and i feel so guilty, althought they havnt contacted me. Now my sister is asking that when im ready, we could both write on together, and send it, and i told her im not sur about it now, ask me in a few weeks, then she said she's already written one anyway, but doesnt know whether to send it.

I have no idea what to do.

Do i carry on lying? I cant hurt them. Especially mum. It will break her.


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Re: After twelve years.. - November 30th 2009, 09:36 PM

Hi Jess,

The best thing to do would be to come forward to your family about the letter. I know that it might be a tough thing to do, but it will only get more difficult the longer you keep it from everyone. If you explain to them what the situation was, then they will probably understand.

The thing about lies is that they have a habit of coming back to haunt you. It's really important that you tell your family on your own and take initiative in telling them instead of letting them find out themselves. This will give you a chance to explain it how you want to explain it and then they wont feel as hurt.

I hope things go well for you. Good luck!


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Re: After twelve years.. - November 30th 2009, 09:41 PM

Hey Jess

Doesn't sound like a fun situation to be in! I have to agree with Nat though, I definitely think you should be honest with your family. The truth has a way of eventually coming out regardless, and it is much better that you tell them now, so they don't get angry that you kept it from them so long.

You shouldn't feel bad for sending the letter, as you hadn't known that this whole thing would happen. I'm sure that your family will understand completely.

Best of luck

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