TeenHelp
Support Forums Today's Posts

Get Advice Connect with TeenHelp Resources
HelpLINK Facebook     Twitter     Tumblr     Instagram    Hotlines    Safety Zone    Alternatives


You are not registered or have not logged in

Hello guest! (Not a guest? Log in above!)

As a guest on TeenHelp you are only able to use some of our site's features. By registering an account you will be able to enjoy unlimited access to our site, and will be able to:

  • Connect with thousands of teenagers worldwide by actively taking part in our Support Forums and Chat Room.
  • Find others with similar interests in our Social Groups.
  • Express yourself through our Blogs, Picture Albums and User Profiles.
  • And much much more!

Signing up is free, anonymous and will only take a few moments, so click here to register now!


Friends and Family Everyone has disagreements, even best friends and family. If you need advice about a relationship, ask us here.

Closed Thread
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread Rate Thread
  (#1 (permalink)) Old
ILoveDimaBilan Offline
Member
Average Joe
***
 
ILoveDimaBilan's Avatar
 
Name: Nina
Age: 25
Gender: Female
Location: The Box of imagination

Posts: 111
Blog Entries: 2
Join Date: February 19th 2009

I can't talk to her the same way - January 4th 2010, 04:04 PM

I have a very extremely close friend C
Were amazingly close. She kept getting on and off with this guy and he was being a prat to her.

I just found out about 10 minutes ago being excat she just had sex with him and she said to me it was the only way of getting him out of her system.

I found that kinda' shocking. I mean she's 17 But I kinda assumed you'd save it for someone speical not the guy your trying to get rid of?

I'd like to give her the benifit of the doubt but...I don't know how to take it. She was safe so I guess thats ok

but sex is something I can't deal with lightly
So how do you deal with it?

Sorry to start the new year with a shocker
Nina


Giant owl goes...
HOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOT
HOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOT
- Paul Meton
- HIGNFY


Go against the rules walk on your own not behind someone else!
- Dima Bilan

The Glass of life is never half empty it is always half full
- ME
   
  (#2 (permalink)) Old
Rosemma Offline
PullMe IntoYour PerfectCircle.
Experienced TeenHelper
******
 
Rosemma's Avatar
 
Name: Rosemma
Age: 31
Gender: Female
Location: London

Posts: 539
Join Date: January 14th 2009

Re: I can't talk to her the same way - January 4th 2010, 11:52 PM

Well Im just going to say that everyones different and feels differently about things.

If you believe that it should be with someone special etc, then thats what you should do.
If you dont take sex lightly, then you dont have to change your opinion.

She obviously feels differently and felt that was the best way to get over the guy.
Just accept that she is a different person, and has a different opinion on that.
Im sure theres plenty of things you both feel differently about
   
  (#3 (permalink)) Old
TheNumber42 Offline
Dolan
I can't get enough
*********
 
TheNumber42's Avatar
 
Name: Cody
Age: 28
Gender: Male
Location: USA

Posts: 2,145
Blog Entries: 5
Join Date: January 6th 2009

Re: I can't talk to her the same way - January 5th 2010, 02:09 PM

If it would help, you might try talking to her about how you feel. Don't accuse her of doing anything wrong, just kind talk about how you both feel, see if that would help. I know alot of times if I'm in a similar situation, talking it over with the other person helps alot.

Though do try to remember that she is a different person, has different vuews, beliefs and values. You can't try to push what you believe on her. You can tell her how you feel and give her advice, but in the end it is her choice.

Hope it goes well, PM me if you ever need anything.


~Cody

Normal User
   
  (#4 (permalink)) Old
Strider Offline
Tash-la
I've been here a while
********
 
Strider's Avatar
 
Name: Nat
Age: 28
Gender: Female
Location: A broken glass picture

Posts: 1,448
Join Date: January 19th 2009

Re: I can't talk to her the same way - January 6th 2010, 10:34 PM

Hi Nina,

It does sound like your friend's reasoning might not have been the best for her situation, but it was her decision. She probably feels differently about sex than you do and may have felt that it was the right thing to do. It could be that she felt differently about the guy when she decided to have sex and then changed her mind after.

I know this is troubling for you and you're unsure how to handle it, but give your friend the benefit of the doubt. She was obviously careful about it and trusts you a great deal to tell you about it. Try talking to her about how you feel and your concern for her, but do your best not to sound condescending. Your friend deserves to have her own opinion, and this isn't worth pushing her away over.

Take care.
Nat.


http://img401.imageshack.us/img401/40/signaturep.png
The great artists of our time are the ones who created something timeless. But it was never them defining it that way.
Everyone has a story. What's yours?
   
  (#5 (permalink)) Old
Member
Regular TeenHelper
*****
 
XbeyondthisworldX's Avatar
 
Name: Megan
Gender: Female
Location: PA

Posts: 360
Blog Entries: 52
Join Date: July 22nd 2009

Re: I can't talk to her the same way - January 7th 2010, 02:38 AM

I know how it is... my 14 year old friend isn't going to have sex yet, but she's fine with doing MANY other things until she's sixteen,(she says it doesn't matter who she's with, but she's losing it at 16...and she's serious) And I on the other hand want to wait until marriage, so I know it's hard to be close to somebody who has totaly different thoughts on something that seems so important. But honestly, you just kind of have to except that she might not think of sex as such a special thing like you do... not everybody does. I hope you can learn to look past this, and still be super tight with her.
   
  (#6 (permalink)) Old
emma01 Offline
Member
I've been here a while
********
 
emma01's Avatar
 
Name: Emma
Age: 25
Gender: Female

Posts: 1,386
Join Date: October 5th 2009

Re: I can't talk to her the same way - January 7th 2010, 07:52 PM

Well i guess its hard when it comes to things like this. Its not as though anyone did something wrong, she didn't go and murder anyone, it really is just a matter of opinion. You believe that it should be saved for someone special and thats fine, she doesnt believe in that and so you will have to respect that. You can always talk to her about it, she has to respect your opinion aswell, but don't accuse her of doing anything wrong.
   
  (#7 (permalink)) Old
ILoveDimaBilan Offline
Member
Average Joe
***
 
ILoveDimaBilan's Avatar
 
Name: Nina
Age: 25
Gender: Female
Location: The Box of imagination

Posts: 111
Blog Entries: 2
Join Date: February 19th 2009

Re: I can't talk to her the same way - January 15th 2010, 08:21 PM

Thanks guys were cool now
Thank you so much and I hope you've all had a good start the year


Giant owl goes...
HOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOT
HOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOT
- Paul Meton
- HIGNFY


Go against the rules walk on your own not behind someone else!
- Dima Bilan

The Glass of life is never half empty it is always half full
- ME
   
Closed Thread

Bookmarks

Tags
talk

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search
Rate This Thread
Rate This Thread:

Posting Rules
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off




All material copyright 1998-2020, TeenHelp.
Terms | Legal | Privacy | Conduct | Complaints | Mobile

Powered by vBulletin®.
Copyright ©2000-2020, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search engine optimization by vBSEO.
Theme developed in association with vBStyles.