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A new friend is ruining his reputation - January 29th 2009, 08:56 PM

Well, at my school, I have a group of friends (We used to be 7, now we are 4). Everyone thinks of us as some imaginative, weird beings, heh. We're always writing surreal stories with weird characters, lyrics with weird rhymes, drawing surreal pictures with all our imagination put into it.
All of this may sound like positive traits, but infact it's socially bad for us.

Me and my friends are not really weird, infact we are very normal, have normal conversations, it's just the stuff that we make that makes people think weird stuff. We're just another teenager school social group.

Well, recently, one of these "popular" guys has been befriending us. We've even jammed over at his house and I taught him some chords.
The thing is he's getting very close to us, and integrating into our "circle of friends".

And this is really negative for him. People put our group names relating to our "mysteriousness" and stuff, which I hate, but whatever.
Well, this is really screwing up this guy's reputation since he's always with us now, doing the activities that we usually do.
They have started calling him names and stuff (Not everyone yet, just the biggest douches around).
I honestly can stand name calling (something I learned to do recently) and don't care anymore what anyone thinks. But this guy is pretty popular and I'd feel really bad if being with us somehow screwed up his status.
I don't know if he cares or not. People have told him not to get along with us, but he still is.

As I said, I'm really concerned about how he will end up...

Should I tell him to get out of our circle of friends, or just... Let it be?
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Re: A new friend is ruining his reputation - January 29th 2009, 09:03 PM

If he's a good enough person not to care what 'the biggest douches' are saying than you shouldn't kick him out! Reputation isn't everything, and most people will look past that.
If your really feeling bad try talking to him about how he's dealing with the name calling and whatnot.
   
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Re: A new friend is ruining his reputation - January 29th 2009, 09:22 PM

I'd tell him, but I'm not sure how he's gonna react. Im not yet as close to him as I am to my other friends.
I really hope he's a person that doesn't care about that kind of stuff. Although to my knowledge most do. (I know I did before)
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Re: A new friend is ruining his reputation - January 29th 2009, 09:40 PM

Have you talked to your other friends about it? Are any of them closer to him?
I wouldn't worry to much though, in the end it's just what a few shallow people think, and they don't matter.
   
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Re: A new friend is ruining his reputation - January 30th 2009, 12:22 PM

Hey there Joe,

I'd say if he's sticking around you guys, even when being called names, and he's enjoying your company and is a nice guy, then let him stay! It sounds like he's being a good friend to you guys and you guys are doing the same, so I'd say let it be. The kind of guy that would give up his reputation to make friends with other people is the kind of guy you want around. And I'm sure there are plenty of people who don't think the same as those people calling him names.

So just give it some time. Let him hang out with you and deal with the name calling when and if it gets serious.

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