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small dillema quick replies appreciated - January 30th 2009, 12:09 PM

Ok i hate to post about something so trivial but i don't usually get myself into such situations.

Anyway my friend G asked me what i was doing tonight today at college, i said nothing at the moment and she said that she might ring me after college and a few of us could go for a meal or something, but nothing was set in stone.

Anyway i came home and signed into msn, my friend J told me that he was having a few people (some of who i know) round his flat for drinks and stuff and asked me if i wanted to come, i said i'd have to let him know in an hour or so incase G rings me. Anyways over an hour later she didn't ring so i said i would go to J's because i haven't seen him or some of the other people who are going in around a year and it would be nice to catch up and stuff.

Now i don't think i did anything wrong here, but i need to text G soon to let her know that i'm not coming out with her tonight but i don't know how to word it so that it doesn't sound like i'm blowing her off or anything. (J IS a guy but nothing would ever happen between us as he's got a girlfriend of 5years and tbh i wouldn't consider it anyway so gender has nothing to do with it)

I was thinking something along the lines of "hey G, not sure if anythings going on tonight but my friend J has asked me if i wanted to go round his for a small gathering and i said yes because i haven't seen the people who are gonna be there in ages, just to let you know hope you don't mind"

I know this looks like a silly thing to post about and i agree, but i've never really had more than one thing to do when i make plans so this is a first. Just to let you know G is one of my best friends and i doubt she would be really offended if i did say i was going elsewhere, plus the fact it wasn't really set in stone.

But anyways help please? I don't want her to feel like i was blowing her off because if we had organised a time and a place earlier i would have said no to J.
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Re: small dillema quick replies appreciated - January 30th 2009, 12:25 PM

Hi there,

I think what you were planning to say is fine, except I would add another time that you could hang out with her, like 'maybe we could get together Saturday night instead'. Or maybe you could even ask J if you could invite G over as well, that way you would solve both problems at once.

I hope this goes well for you. I'm sure you friend will understand.

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Re: small dillema quick replies appreciated - January 30th 2009, 12:30 PM

Thanks for the reply i think i just panicked a little when i realized i needed to tell G that i couldn't make it, she should be fine with it i just get paranoid sometimes about coming across in the wrong light lol.
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Re: small dillema quick replies appreciated - January 30th 2009, 02:33 PM

I agree with what Nat said, what you said sounds fine, it doesn't sound like you're blowing him off or anything but by adding that you could go out another time shows that it's nothing against him, just simply that you have been asked to go out when you wern't sure if you were still going out with G. Hope you get it sorted out!

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