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Exclamation Favourtism...(updated) - March 30th 2010, 12:55 PM

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I am offically done with my family. Mainly my sister.

She has a reason for this, my father ignored her completly and favored me when he was around. But now he is not, and my sister is my mothers favourite... Whats hard, is that I see my mom about once a month, like to actually hangout with. I see her every morning before school. Then she works, when she gets home she goes to bed. OR she spends times with my sister. She is almost 14. My mom spends most of her time with her. I get to spend time with my mom for like a movie a month.

Last night I got home, and my sister was being a bitch and was all like "my mom and I are going to the city" and I was like "uhh, no, mom said she was going to a movie with me before anythinhg" and then all hel broke lose. I've had it, I'm done trying to get time with mom. I have had it, honest to god. I am favored by NO ONE in this family. My father left 5 years ago, and just FUCK!

Right, so anyways. I understand that my sister loves my mom, and that she needs attention after what our father did, but I mean, come on! There is something going on, and I am just tired of it.

I just had 2 classes, I am exhausted, I think I am going to passout, I am just to tired emotionally to deal with all of this...

Mom and I see eachother almost once a week or something. We don't spend any time with eachother alone because my sister is ALWAYS with her. It is really fucking pissing me off. I posted something similar in the ED forum because I am just giving up. I am finished. I am not eating anymore, I am going home tonight and telling them up front I refuse to eat. I just can't do this anymore. My life is out of control, and I've had it. My ED is getting A LOT worse, and soon I will need to be hospitalized... I hope they ferak out and admit me to the hospital, at least that way I will be able to get away from them and all this bull shit. And hopefully the hospital can help me get control of my life and my ED... Okay, maybe thats wishing to much...











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Re: Favourtism... - March 30th 2010, 09:31 PM

Hey hold on now, don't get ahead of yourself. You just reacting this way will hurt yourself more than anyone else. Now come on, calm down and lets first talk about this. Now, have you tried to talk to your mom about this ? Because she should be able to sort this out. Why don't you also talk all together ? First have a talk with your mom and then all three of you. But don't go to extremes and lose your self control.


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Re: Favourtism... - March 30th 2010, 09:33 PM

Talked, talked, and talked about this. Nothing is changing. I have talked to counselors, friends, specialists, step dad, sister, mom, everyone. Andnothing has changed. I am calm, I have decided this because I am taking this calmy, with every intention to back it up. I am finished.











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Re: Favourtism... - March 30th 2010, 09:51 PM

Then when you guys were talking then you really weren't communicating. But you know what, you still have a lot of years before you, it isn't written in stone that it will always be like this, so endangering that is not a good idea.

When people really communicate and talk with their hearts then a change comes about. But if you don't really communicate heart to heart then you can talk all you want but nothing will change.

And by the way it seems you are letting your ED take control of you by getting annoyed. You being annoyed by this is making your anger control your ED. Stop being annoyed and it won't get out of control. I understand you are annoyed but you will be hurting yourself by letting your anger just run rampant.

But all I'm saying is don't go ahead with that plan of yours. It might lead to even more pain than what you are going through. It is never a good idea to respond to pain and hurt by pursuing another idea which will bring more pain.


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Re: Favourtism... - April 1st 2010, 12:50 PM

Talking never works. Actions work. My family, has a HUGE past, no talking, it doesn't work. Not much else to say, if anyoe talks to anyone about something, it gets worse, and worse, then we all end up hating eachother until someone acts.

actions speak louder then wrds, and in my family, thats a rule to live by. It sucks, I've tried talking to everyone, all it does is cause conflic, so I am done talking. I am done eating. Thats it, thats all. I'm going to be admitted soon I have a feeling, and when I am, things will get worse for me. I will be released early like usual, I will still have all this shit going on at home. My past, everything. And I am going to relapse and go back to this almsot instantly, and nothign is ever going to be solved...

I know your trying to help, but talking just never works in my family...











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Re: Favourtism... - April 1st 2010, 10:51 PM

So why are you wiling to hurt yourself for someone who won't even consider talking. Why ? As I said before, there is no good reason to select a bad idea just to hurt yourself. I say you shouldn't do it. Live your life. Don't endanger it, if it is action then the right action will show without hurting anyone, especially you who is hurting from this whole ordeal. You say that when you go through this and come back it will still be there, so why should you even go through that ? Why ? It doesn't make sense at all why you should hurt yourself. Go on living your life, enjoy it, don't hurt yourself, because really this is not the best action to take.


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