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burned out. - April 1st 2010, 03:00 AM

have you ever felt burned out with someone? like you used to feel happy with them, loved to hang out with them, etc. but now you feel burned out like all the fights and everytime you've been hurt because of them is now catching up with you. i've known this person for a long time. but i can help but feel burned out when it comes to them. i can't help like i deserve to be treated better. is it too much to ask for a 50/50 friendship? i mean for all that i've known them i always thought that the way they treated me was normal. but after talking to some other friends.and finally coming out of my shell and making new friends i realize that they treat me like shit. i guess what i'm really asking for advise on is that.
a) is it normal to feel burned out with someone after having so many rough patchs?
b) how should friends treat you?
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Re: burned out. - April 1st 2010, 09:47 AM

Hi Michelle.

I've felt like that a few times. It's not uncommon for that to happen. Sometimes a certain friendship suddenly doesn't feel worth it, and it may not have even been anyone's fault.

Sometimes, though, you have to acknowledge that the friendship isn't working out. It's good to realise that you deserve friends who treat you well, and if you're not with people like that, it's a good idea to start hanging around with people who do. It's definitely not unreasonable to expect to be treated well by your friends, and if you feel like it's you putting all the effort in and getting nothing back, it's time to re-evaluate the friendship and decide if it's worth it or not.

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Re: burned out. - April 1st 2010, 08:10 PM

Hey Michelle,

I would say that it is normal to feel "burned out" by someone who has let you down or hurt you several times in the past. Don't worry about that, it is part of human nature I guess. Sometimes friendships just don't work out or aren't meant to be.

Friends should treat you with respect and you should be able to have a good time with them and ideally trust them, however it isn't always like that. I am glad you have some friends who you think treat you right, could you try and spend more time with them at the moment? Also, have you tried talking to your friend? Perhaps she doesn't realise how much she is hurting you. Sometimes, a friendship works for a period of time but then you both change and things are different between you. Unfortunately that is just part of life really and it happens.

I hope things work out for you,
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