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This Needs To Stop - April 5th 2010, 12:00 AM

I've been having issues lately where I have no patience and if someone tells me I screwed something up, I will believe it and beat the shit out of myself for it. Yeah, this may not seem to have anything to do with either friends or family, but it's getting there. Whenever I begin to get pissed off, I try to calm down by texting or calling my best friend. From there, I eventually end up pretty much taking everything out on him and hurting him terribly. For example, I got pissed off with an oral exam I have in english on Wednesday, so I called him to talk about it. He started saying "em, you really gotta work on that" so I said "fine. bye." and I hung up on him. I got a text literally two seconds later saying "wtf?" from him. I told him that, as I had said earlier, I'm not in the best mood & am surprised I hung up on him. (which is true, I haven't done that in months) A few minutes later I said, "if you want we can try talking again but i don't have much patience right now" I began crying immediately after I sent this text for no apparent reason and he said "ill wait ok?" I told him "I don't know how long dad & al will be gone. but... whatever. your choice. i just started crying." He called me immediately and we talked a bit but he had to go to dinner. He said he's going to call back after dinner. I just... I can't keep doing this to him. I realize every time how damn much it hurts him when I take all of it out on him and I keep doing it. Then when it happens he gets all hurt and upset then later says its okay that I do that. I've tried to get the point across that it's not okay that I keep hurting him like that and I honestly don't know what to do about it.


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Re: This Needs To Stop - April 5th 2010, 08:33 AM

Hey there. Your friend sounds like a very supportive guy, and you sound like a lovely girl - it's okay to have some issues.

Maybe, next time something upsets you, take some time out before calling him. Just enough time to cool off. Remind yourself that if you call him in the state you're in, you might end up hurting him, which you really don't want to do.

It could also be beneficial to find another outlet for your emotions. You could try writing it down instead. You could also look at the Self Harm Alternatives - I know your issue has nothing to do with self-harm, but the list there has a lot of good ideas to deal with negative emotions, and you might be able to find one that works.

As for now, just apologise to him, and do your best not to let it happen again.

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Re: This Needs To Stop - April 7th 2010, 02:39 AM

Then stop hurting him. He seems to be a good person, but remember, and I am sorry to say this, if you continue like this, there is a time he will have had enough and you may lose him.

So go talk to him about it and apologize, you seem to be hurting much from this so tell himand have a heart to heart with him about this issue. But first apologize to him.


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