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parents :( - April 18th 2010, 05:26 AM

i just want to know why parents cant just be loving and caring. why they have to bully and abuse and just be so nasty? im so sick of it. its not just me and my parents, but most people i talk to. please help! how do you block out your parents and stay ok/friends with them?
   
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Smile Re: parents :( - April 18th 2010, 05:43 AM

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I know parents can seem a lot like the bad guys sometimes and it can be hard. Sometimes you may feel they don't love you. That's not true. They realy do care about you. Sometimes one of the best way's they show it is by discipline. Hang in there. I would try listening to what they have to say, and even if you dont like whats they are saying try to listen. it will pay off in the long run. If you have any questions, or want to talk feel free to PM me. I have been there with parents before.

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Re: parents :( - April 18th 2010, 06:35 AM

Hey hun,

I'm sorry that you are not treated right. Sometimes parents don't understand their children. Just because they are adults, doesn't make them responsible.
They do love you though. They just have a different way of showing it. Trying expressing to them in a letter how you feel.
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Re: parents :( - April 18th 2010, 02:27 PM

i guess it's because anyone can be a parent. it doesn't matter how much of a jerk they are, no one is coming to take away their child just because they're mean.
   
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Re: parents :( - April 19th 2010, 01:46 AM

I agree with what the others said here as well.


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Re: parents :( - April 21st 2010, 10:04 PM

What exactly do they do ? Do they beat you ?


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Re: parents :( - April 23rd 2010, 08:49 PM

Your parents aren't your friends... they are your guardians. Their role in life is to show you how to become a healthy, responsible adult. Sometimes, they become so focused on their roles as parents, that they fail to show a bit of compassion toward their children. They forget how hard it is to be a teenager, and to struggle with things like academics, finances, relationships, etc. They've had more time to "figure life out", so what comes naturally for them doesn't come so naturally for us.

With all of that in mind, ask yourself this: WHY are your parents bullying you? Is it because they're not satisfied with how you're developing as a young adult? Because they're insecure and feel better about themselves by picking on a teenager? Because they genuinely hate you? In order to determine what the best approach is for this situation, you must first determine what the CAUSE is for this situation.






   
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Re: parents :( - April 24th 2010, 10:53 PM

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Your parents aren't your friends... they are your guardians. Their role in life is to show you how to become a healthy, responsible adult. Sometimes, they become so focused on their roles as parents, that they fail to show a bit of compassion toward their children. They forget how hard it is to be a teenager, and to struggle with things like academics, finances, relationships, etc. They've had more time to "figure life out", so what comes naturally for them doesn't come so naturally for us.

With all of that in mind, ask yourself this: WHY are your parents bullying you? Is it because they're not satisfied with how you're developing as a young adult? Because they're insecure and feel better about themselves by picking on a teenager? Because they genuinely hate you? In order to determine what the best approach is for this situation, you must first determine what the CAUSE is for this situation.
I disagree with a big point here. No no no. Parents should also be your friends. And showing you the way is one of their roles as parents. One cannot show compassion without being a friend. Good parents are friends too, not just guardians.


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Re: parents :( - April 27th 2010, 02:54 AM

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I disagree with a big point here. No no no. Parents should also be your friends. And showing you the way is one of their roles as parents. One cannot show compassion without being a friend. Good parents are friends too, not just guardians.

I don't know... I've made a lot of friends over the years who are "friends" with their parents. There's a fine, FINE line between being "friendly" with your child, and becoming their buddy. When you're friendly, your child can trust you, confide in you, hang out with you, etc... and those are all good things. =) But when a parent becomes too concerned about whether or not their child likes them, and they become a buddy... it can get ugly.

You can't view your parent as an equal, like you would with your friends. There needs to be a distinction between your "cool" parents and your same-age friends. I think too many teens wish that they could be friends with their parents... because guess what? You don't HAVE to listen to your friends! You don't HAVE to do whatever your friends tell you to do! But with a parent, that's not the case. You have to follow their rules, and yes, sometimes you'll butt heads, but that's just how the world works.






   
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