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Moved away - April 20th 2010, 10:03 PM

Hii, I'm just wonderin has anyone ever been really close with their brother or sister who has moved away to another country? How did it effect you?

My brother moved to another country and got married a few years ago when i was 14. he was like my best friend because i always got picked on in school and he was always there when i got home.
Him leaving has effected me pretty badly in the last few years and it's always worried me about why it hit me so badly. Have i been overreacting?
Im not that close to my other brother and sisters. My sisters can be quite nasty most of the time and i always find myself sayin "why the hell couldnt they have left??"
I havent had much contact with my brother this past while, because of time difference and internet connection and other random obstacles. But i really do try. And hes been going through a lot, which hurts even more.

But yea, i spose my point is, can anyone relate to this and make me feel a little more normal and less of a loser grieving over someone who left ages ago..?

I'd really appreciate any help at all =)
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Re: Moved away - April 20th 2010, 10:16 PM

It's great that you look up to your brother, I mean I don't have any brothers or sisters that left but I live in LA without any cousins and it gets lonely at times not having some one there to talk to but it's healthy to miss someone. Why don't you plan on visiting him or something?
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Re: Moved away - April 21st 2010, 07:40 PM

Ive been savin like mad to try and visit. but its so expensive and im hopefully goin to uni soon. so if i do get to see him, it wont be till a few years down the line.

Yea i spose it is healthy. just gotta keep tellin myself that x)

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Re: Moved away - April 23rd 2010, 12:29 AM

I have been through this. My sister left to go to a university in a different country. I was 12 yrs old. I remember when i saw her going to the boarding gate(you know you can't go with them to the plane entry), I started crying. Afew days later, i was seeing her stuff and it hurt bad, really bad. And i remembered how sometimes i was rude at her and i just cried.
But through time it got better and the pain softened, but it took a long time, for me about 2-3yrs to be comfortable with the fact that she was in some other place.

But most of all you just need to be strong and not let the emotions overcome you, just accept them and go on.

I came here to help out, so if you wanna talk or just need someone to bounce ideas or issues off of or something else then send me a message and I will reply as soon as I can.
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Re: Moved away - April 27th 2010, 05:51 PM

Times a healer, but damn its a long time lol. i get what your saying about accepting it and just moving on. i just find it hard to deal with hearing thats hes goin through a tough time. But i guess no one said it would be easy..

Thanks for your replies =)
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