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Angry getting frustrated. - April 26th 2010, 02:37 AM

i have a guy friend, we'll call him jacob.
i really only want to be friends with him but i have a tendency to fall for my guy friends.
to give you guys some background, we became friends last year and started to get really close this year. yes, i find him attractive, but i don't see a relationship in our future. i just want to be friends with him. as a joke we pretend to hate eachother, we'll say "mean" things to eachother with the full understanding that we're kidding and we both know that we love eachother for real and its all in good fun.

our mutual friends always say how "cute" we are and that we should go out. it was also suggested by a female friend of mine that i should go to prom with him even though i already have a date with another one of my male friends.
whenever we pretend to "fight" people say we're like a "cute old married couple".
i understand its just my friends making jokes but they keep giving us looks, like they really mean it when they say it.
it bothered me at first but i got used to it and tried to ignore it, but everytime someone says it, it puts us in an awkward situation.

so thats the background, (sorry its long)
so on this past friday, (today is sunday) i was at a party and i happened to be sitting next to jacob, my other male friend (who has a terrible male jealousy problem) went to push jacob, which meant that his arm/hand was also in my face because i was in between them. i told him to stop and pushed his hand away.

my male friend said "okay fine i'll leave your boyfriend alone."
i got so mad but jacob and i played it off as a joke and said "no dude we hate eachother"

i'm so mad and i know that it wasn't that big of a deal but is there anyway i can deal with this situation better? i feel like theres nothing i can even say that will get people to stop. because if i protest to much to it they will say "oh well then you do like him" and if i don't protest enough they'll say the same thing.

i just want to have male friends and not have to deal with the whole "you should go out" drama.

any suggestions?
also thank you in advance for reading all this, you're amazing
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Re: getting frustrated. - April 27th 2010, 05:32 AM

Unfortunately, people are always going to gossip... especially if the two of you are single or not in a "serious" relationship, and spend more time with one another than you spend with your prospective partners. =P All I can really suggest is that you ask your friends to give it a rest, because it's putting too much strain on your friendship, and they're doing the both of you a disservice by pressing the matter.

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Re: getting frustrated. - May 2nd 2010, 09:26 PM

wassup gurl:

wellz the best thing for you to do is to confront your friends about this problem you have with them asking and sometimes it best to just forget what people say about you and jacob , sometimes when it comes to friends they just wanna see you happy and enjoying yourself so when they ask you if your going out with him they just wanna know the status of you and jacob. ohhh and you have to STOP that hate each other thing because that could one day just drive you apart even though if u guys are playing around. just hang with your friend jacob and live life no matter what people say....
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