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Angry She Cant do this! - April 26th 2010, 10:06 PM

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I am kinda freaking out here right now....i am having a birthday party this Saturday....Well thats the thing. I hope I'm having one. My Mom is saying that she wants to cancel it because of my bad attitude. Well....My crush is invited. I had already invited him to something else.....and then had to cancel on him. Well...i am going to freak out if i have to cancel on him again. I guess this is more of a rant. I can't take this anymore. My Mom is always telling me what to do, telling me i cant do anything, and overall just saying i am no good. My crush is one of the few things that help me overcome things. Being older than me, he can be very mature. I am just ready to freak out and need some idea's here. Thanks guys.


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Re: She Cant do this! - April 27th 2010, 06:06 AM

First, calm down. Nothing good will come out of arguing with your mother. When you're ready, politely ask her if the two of you could talk for a few minutes about the upcoming party. If she says "no", let it go, and try again the next day. If she says "yes", here's what you need to do:

Own up to your mistake. Whatever it was your did, whether you think it was wrong or not, say that you're sorry. Don't be sarcastic about it, don't be insincere. Oftentimes, it's the little things that tick parents off. A rolling of the eyes, not giving a straight answer about something, failing to do chores soon enough... it may seem like no big deal to you, but to your mother, it may be perceived as a sign of blatant disrespect for her rules and authority.

Be ready to compromise. If your mom still says that you can't have a birthday party, ask if it would be possible to have lunch with your crush. A good line to use would be "What can I do to make things right?". It makes you look like a mature, reasonable individual, vs. a whiny, spoiled teenage girl (I'm not saying that you are, of course!). Hopefully, something can be worked out, and you'll be able to spend time with your crush. =)

Being a teenager isn't easy. Being a parent isn't easy. Hang in there, because things WILL get easier as you become older. You'll learn how to see things through your mother's eyes, and you won't have to compromise as often, because you'll be an independent adult who is free to live her own life.







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Re: She Cant do this! - April 27th 2010, 07:45 AM

The thing of it is, your mother CAN tell you what to do right now. She's your mother. Her job as a mother is to teach you what's good and what's bad.

I get this at home myself, saying I have a bad attitude. Sure I make excuses but it really is me in the end and my family only complains about it because they want me to change for the better.

Just calm down and show your mother you're mature. If you freak out over it, she won't think you're ready for a party. Think of it this way. Would you want to invite people over if your mother flipped out and had an attitude over everything? No, it'd be embarassing for the both of you. Show your mother you're mature and ask her CALMLY if you can still have your party. If she says no, stay calm, try to talk it through with her. Just stay relaxed!
   
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Re: She Cant do this! - April 27th 2010, 05:16 PM

Thank you guys! We did figure something out due to your wonderful advice!


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Re: She Cant do this! - April 27th 2010, 05:26 PM

Congrats! In that case, I'm going to close your thread, since the issue's been resolved. =)






   
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