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Question Conflicting plans. - May 12th 2010, 09:53 PM

So here is the thing. This might get long,

My best friend/cousin is getting baptized this Sunday. This is clearly very important to her...I mean I'm not exactly religious but I can see why it would be. She wanted me to sleepover and then go with her when she gets baptized.

Stupid me, as usual, told her about a week ago that I'm not busy and that I could do all of this.
However I STUPIDLY didn't realize I had already made plans. 1. To sleepover one of my new friends house this weekend. and 2. Go to my clubs walkathon with all of my other friends Sunday, the day she's getting baptized. (which I already raised money for, and gave them that money) I completely forgot about all of this! So I basically promised both parties something, and I simply cannot be in two places at once.

I told my best friend/cousin yesterday that I had made plans for Sunday and she asked me if it was important to me. Honestly I don't know what is important? They both are, really. I know that it's also important to her and I feel completely selfish and like a horrible friend. I really need to sort out my priorities?

What should I do? Go to the walkathon and disappoint my best friend, or go with my best friend and disappoint all my other friends? And, my parents, who paid money towards it, too. Either way I'm going to let someone down.


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Re: Conflicting plans. - May 12th 2010, 11:04 PM

Well, try to look at this from ALL of your friends' points of view. Your best friend obviously thinks her baptism is important. Your other group of friends probably also think this walkathon is important. The big difference (in my opinion) is that a baptism generally only happens once in a person's lifetime, whereas walkathons are fairly common events. You could always go with your friends to another walkathon, but you can't go to another best friend's baptism. Can your group of friends complete the walkathon without you? Or do they need a certain number of teammates in order to participate? How disappointed do you think all your friends would be, if you missed their events? Whose disappointment would be greater? Ask yourself all of these questions (and talk to everyone about the conflict) before making a decision. =)






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Re: Conflicting plans. - May 13th 2010, 05:36 AM

It is your decision. Just select whichever one you see as more important to you. I would select your cousin cause it seems to be of a more special meaning. But it is your choice not mine.


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Re: Conflicting plans. - May 13th 2010, 08:46 PM

Thanks for your help ^^ I decided to miss her baptism. I am disappointed in myself, because I know that she wanted me to be there but she asked me after I had made plans, so she understands. & is going to tape it!


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Re: Conflicting plans. - May 14th 2010, 04:52 AM

Ooh, that's awesome! =D I'm glad to hear that she wasn't upset about your decision.

You know what might be fun? Making a big deal out of watching the video tape... act like you're going to a movie premiere. xD Whip out the popcorn and soda! Make her feel like a celebrity, show her she's loved. <3





   
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