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Best Friend, Biggest Stress - June 19th 2010, 12:21 PM

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My best friend pisses me off. Often, it seems.
We've been friends for about 7 years now, and more recently, he's been testing my patience.

1: He's been calling a girl a whore, and picking on her constantly, making her cry on numerous occasions. I know the girl, and even though I'm not close to her, it angers me.
2: He nearly made a (now) close friend of mine kill herself, due to his mistakes. He started dating a good friend of mine (due to me), and soon after, got close to another girl in another town. Loooong story short, he ended up having sex with the other girl, and making multiple promises to keep her safe/happy/etc. Well, it blew up in his face, and the other girl began telling his girlfriend the whole truth. He started calling the other girl a slut, lying bitch, etc., and even told her to kill herself several times. She almost did, several times. I helped her every time. She still hasn't gotten over it, and neither has he. He's made remarks about wanting to kill her himself before, and I told her one thing: If she ended up killing herself over this, I'd hold him responsible for it, and I'd make him pay. She didn't agree, blaming it on herself, but I still hold to that statement. If her death is in any way related to him, I'm coming for blood.
3: (this one may be none of my business) He overreacted when his girlfriend (briefly) spoke to a boy on a trip. For one, He's the one that cheated in the full sense behind her back, and two, her best friend is basically dating the boy she spoke to. He made his girlfriend cry over it, and I was angered. Again.
I'm the whole reason they're even dating in the first place (They've told me that), and No matter what's happened, she hasn't dumped him yet. I personally don't think he deserves her anymore, but maybe I'm just poking my head in personal matters. Whatever.

The worst part is: I'm basically living at his house for the summer, and he's sitting across from me while I type this. I'm far too forgiving for my own good.


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Re: Best Friend, Biggest Stress - June 19th 2010, 10:54 PM

So talk to him about this, and tell him. Speak with him, have a heart to heart with him. When you see him mistreating people stop him from continuing. Stand up for those people he is hurting.


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Re: Best Friend, Biggest Stress - June 19th 2010, 11:33 PM

If hes sitting there, I would like to say that he is a total jackass, and that everything bad that has happened is his fault and that he doesnt deserve anyone if hes gonna think that way and do those things.


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Re: Best Friend, Biggest Stress - June 21st 2010, 07:20 AM

I think I'm going to put the third one in a new thread, it's escalated since I posted last.

And it's not easy to get through to him about anything. Trying to change his mind is like trying to argue with a wall. Not to mention I have a hard time talking about this kind of stuff normally.


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Re: Best Friend, Biggest Stress - June 22nd 2010, 02:24 AM

I think u should realli talk to him about this because its affecting u and others. && to be clear it seems like he realli doesn't care a bout none of those girls or he wouldn't be doin the stuff he's doing now.


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Re: Best Friend, Biggest Stress - June 22nd 2010, 02:53 AM

I can't bring myself to talk to him about it. I know him well, and I know he's not going to take it in stride. He's going to end up aggressively disagreeing, which will end up in an argument, which will end in a temporary break from being near him. I have trouble enough talking about it here, let alone in person, let alone my best friend.


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Re: Best Friend, Biggest Stress - June 23rd 2010, 02:21 AM

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I can't bring myself to talk to him about it. I know him well, and I know he's not going to take it in stride. He's going to end up aggressively disagreeing, which will end up in an argument, which will end in a temporary break from being near him. I have trouble enough talking about it here, let alone in person, let alone my best friend.
You just have to stand up for those guys he hurts when he's doing it.
But you just have to stand up for them.


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Re: Best Friend, Biggest Stress - June 23rd 2010, 02:18 PM

Talk to him about it. I don't get why you would want to be friends with him when he keeps hurting people.
   
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Re: Best Friend, Biggest Stress - June 23rd 2010, 06:47 PM

I talked to his girlfriend last night about it, and she helped me a bit. And I heard him talking to her about it (I don't think she mentioned me though) over the phone, and I don't think it went well.


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Re: Best Friend, Biggest Stress - June 25th 2010, 04:57 AM

well atleast u tried and she did.. But if he continues like that he eventually goin to lose the ones who loves and cares about him the most


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