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2 against 1 - June 25th 2010, 09:25 AM

My 2 best friends and I have been friends for a long time way before they started to date each other. Now that they have been a couple for almost 3 months I have been feeling left out. They never text me anymore. When I text them they tell me to not text them because they are hanging out with each other. They aren't very open up to me anymore. When we hang out it's like i'm not even there they are in their own little worlds. I can't even hang out with my guy best friend one on one without my other girl friend gettin jealous because that's her man. They just shut out everyone and pay attention to each other and it's not fair for me because they are the only real close friends that I always thought would be there for me. Now I feel i'm losing them and there is nothing I can do. I have talked to both of them about this and they still havent changed the way they have been acting. What should I do, please help me.

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Re: 2 against 1 - June 25th 2010, 03:45 PM

Like you said, you've talked to them and nothing has changed. To put it bluntly, it shows that they either don't care or they don't see an issue with what they are doing. Right now they are caught up in the "hey, we're dating" side of things and it'll be hard for them to realize that they are leaving you on the outside. If and when they break up, things may change, but it isn't something to wait around for.

It's unfair for you to have to wait around and see if they'll change, you deserve better than that. I would hang out with them if the opportunity presents itself but I would also not be against finding other friends as well.
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Re: 2 against 1 - June 25th 2010, 04:30 PM

I agree with Steph. Right now, they're both caught up in the "honeymoon" stage, where their significant other is all that matters. When you're young, that stage can persist for much longer than it would for an older teen or adult (when I was dating my ex-boyfriend at 15 years old, it took me about six months to get my head out of the clouds and re-connect with my friends).

I also agree with her idea to keep them in your life, while looking for new friends over the summer break. If they make an active effort to hang out with you... great! But don't chase after them. Instead, focus your efforts on finding people who aren't caught up in new relationships, people who can appreciate your friendship. =) Easier said than done, I know... but try joining a new club or organization this summer, and befriend the people there! You'll already have one thing in common, so you can start the conversation there and then see what else you have in common. =D

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Re: 2 against 1 - June 25th 2010, 11:36 PM

Try to tell them one last time how you feel then just wait.
They proably really don't relize what their doing, since their in that "puppy love" stage. Do you have any other friends that you can try hanging out more?
This may be a great time to make new friends, while your old friends are all dazed in "puppy love".
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