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I want to meet my father. - August 4th 2010, 01:45 AM

Well, I've never met my father, nor have I seen a photo, or know what he looks like. I know his name, and if Whitepages.com's information was correct, I know his Number, and adress. He wanted nothing to do with me, and left when my mom was pregnet, and he sends 600$ in child support every month. I live in Florida, and he lives 1,000 miles away in Vermont. I'm heading up to Vermont for a 10 day vacation this Friday, with my sister. My theropist has offerd to make the call himself during our session tommarow, but I perfer I'd be the one to speak. What do I say to him? I'm nervous, and want to puke everytime I consider making the call by myself here at home. How do I go about this, I don't want him to immediatley hang up, I want to take caution so I can actually speak with him.
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Re: I want to meet my father. - August 4th 2010, 03:14 AM

So what's your game plan when he picks up the phone ? Do you plan by starting out in small talk or are you just gonna say it straight to him that you're his son ?

Cause its gonna hit him hard, so softly telling him that its you, his son seems a better way to go ?

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Re: I want to meet my father. - August 10th 2010, 10:19 PM

hey, i was looking for a post like this myself incase i decide to ring my dad, or if he decides to ring me, you have to tell him that your his son, otherwise you cant start a conversation off, he'll be wondering who hes speaking to so you have to tell him who you are, ask if his name is whatever your dads name is and then ask if he had a child with whatever your mas name, and then say who you are, if he hangs up call him back a few days later, him hanging up doesnt mean he doesnt want anything to do with you it could just be that it was a bit of a shock to him .if you ring hi back a few days later he'll either say that he wants contact or say that he doesnt want anything to do with you,just be prepared for the worst.he left when your mam was pregnant on you, that was a long time ago, people change so he might actually regret leaving and want to try and make up with you.and there could also be many reasons for him not contacting you, maybe he thought you'd be better off without him or he thought you hated him. but as i said be prepared for the worst hope it all goes well good luck
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