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Question How do I become Fake to them? - August 17th 2010, 07:41 PM

I just moved in with my dad and stepmom and am having a little bit of trouble adjusting to there lifestyle. My dad and mom know about my troubling past and only want the best for me but my dad is always worried because I don't seem that happy to them. It's not that I hate living with them, It's just I feel like I'm always screwing things up. I'm not used to doing things their way and I just feel like I don't belong. I hate always being told that I'm doing something wrong and I hate that I'm making things hard on them.

I just would like to know how I came make them worry less. I want to make it appear as if I'm always happy even when I want to cry because I have no idea what I'm doing. I've tried smiling and acting like I'm not really upset even when I am.What do I do?
   
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Re: How do I become Fake to them? - August 17th 2010, 07:48 PM

Take up a hobby, something to occupy yourself with so they see you're having a good time.. just make sure it's something you like.


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Re: How do I become Fake to them? - August 28th 2010, 02:36 AM

Opening up the lines of communication is the first step. Be open and honest and just explain to them how you feel. Don't allow an arguement to erupt to yell out how you feel...ask them if you can sit down and talk to them when you are in a calm state of mind. They love you and want the best for you and they are just confused as to why your actions are revealing that you aren't happy. Let them know that you are just adjusting to their lifestyle and it will take you some time and to give you the space that you need. This will allow both sides to get out what it is they need to say and how they are feeling. Parents sometimes think that they can read their teens minds (believe me, I know!) and they are usually pretty far off the mark but if you let them in to your world, they will have a better understanding of where you are coming from and in turn, may compromise and meet you half way on some pressing issues that you have been experiencing that has been causing your unhappiness.
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Re: How do I become Fake to them? - August 28th 2010, 04:07 AM

Bottling it up isn't going to help because you'll drive yourself into a deep pit. If their lifestyle is new, don't expect to know it quickly. From what you said, the parents seem to want to help you so let them help by being more open. You may feel bad releasing your emotions onto them but it's better than bottling them up when you feel you really need to release them.


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Re: How do I become Fake to them? - August 28th 2010, 06:54 AM

You shouldn't have to become 'fake' with them. This is your dad your talking about. You shouldn't have to be fake with them. Let them know that you feel sort of out of place. Talk to them and ask them what you can do as in what the house rules are and such. Then talk to them and let them know what they can do to help you adjust to the situation.
I went through the same situation last year when I moved in with my dad and his girlfriend. After we talked it out, it was a lot better.


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Re: How do I become Fake to them? - August 28th 2010, 08:02 AM

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You shouldn't have to become 'fake' with them. This is your dad your talking about. You shouldn't have to be fake with them. Let them know that you feel sort of out of place. Talk to them and ask them what you can do as in what the house rules are and such. Then talk to them and let them know what they can do to help you adjust to the situation.
I went through the same situation last year when I moved in with my dad and his girlfriend. After we talked it out, it was a lot better.

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