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My mom's in denial... - September 3rd 2010, 03:16 AM

My mom treats me like I'm the eternal five year old: happy, doesn't know what peer pressure is, and needs her help.

I've been depressed since 7th grade (I'm in 10th now), and I told her I used to be three times. She didn't believe me till the third, but I was afraid to tell her I'm still depressed. I'm also bisexual, and I've come out to her three times, and she doesn't think so, so she told me to never say that I am bi, and the best I could get out of her is that 'I'm undecided.' My mom has been putting off chores lately, so I've been asking if she could finally teach me how to do laundry at least. But she says no and that she's doing it today. If I try it myself, she gets pissed, yells at me, and then does it herself. So I've been wearing the same pants all week T_T

Is there anyway that I can tell her I'm depressed, that I am bisexual, not 'undecided,' and that she should treat me like I'm fifteen?
   
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Re: My mom's in denial... - September 3rd 2010, 04:13 AM

if you can, maybe sit her down and really talk to her. tell her everything, and how you really feel. it'll be hard at first, but maybe after a bit she'll start to understand. say that you're NOT 5 anymore, and you need to learn how to do stuff like laundry. i hope she gets and things get easier for you. good luck!


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Re: My mom's in denial... - September 3rd 2010, 05:44 AM

Im eighteen and I sorta know what you mean. My mom doesnt treat me like Im five but she treats me not like Im eighteen. I tried coming out to her as bisexual and she was like you dont know what your talking about. I know how to do laundry. I was taught when I lived with my dad by his girlfriend. But she won't let me touch it even if I need my clothes washed.

She won't even support my desion on moving out of this house. You just need to have a serious sit down with her and tell her your depressed that you need to learn how to do to things around the house and that your bisexual. Don't let her change subjects. Tell her you two need to talk about it.


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Re: My mom's in denial... - September 3rd 2010, 10:49 AM

Many parents have issues on accepting their child is of a sexual orientation they don't approve of. The main concern I think here is her not realizing you're depressed. Best way to be treated how you like is to act like it. For her, do more things without being told and don't whine about not being treated like you're 15. It may still be an issue but if you want to be treated more maturely, then act more maturely. I would put off the bisexual issue for now because I don't consider it to be as big of a concern than the rest and often it's the parents in denial. You're dealing with enough as it is with your mother, you don't need to challenge her views on this as well. If some of the depression is due to this, then just put it off and agree with her because you've got enough as it is. If you accept that much, you're much more likely to have the rest worked out easier. Afterward, go back and re-question or just ignore it. I'd say ignore it actually.


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