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Wanting to go.. - October 8th 2010, 03:44 PM

I want to live with my aunt, uncle, and cousin in Colorado. They already said I could if I could convince my parents to let me. I'm not completely sure why, but my mom always says no. She doesn't even let me explain why I want to go live out there. It feels like we aren't really a family anyway, and my parents are always focusing on my eldest sister and all the problems she brings. Then they turn around and praise the middle child who is going off to college next year. It's like they only mention me when they're getting mad at me for "having an attitude" when really if I ever seem like I do it's only because I'm strongly affected by the way my dad acts. I just want to get out of this place. My family in Colorado feels like my only family, and I don't feel like I have any real friends here anyway.

I might as well list some pluses to going to Colorado, too.
1.) Most of my mom's side of the family lives up there.
2.) I'd be getting away from my dad's side of the family. After a certain incident last Christmas, I've felt like none of them like me except for one aunt, uncle, and cousin who live a few hours away.
3.) I can't talk to the people I live with about anything. I'm hoping that if I go to Colorado, my aunt can get me help for my cutting and major self-image problems.
4.) I get made fun of at my school. I hate it.
Aaand.. there are more, but I don't want to spam this place with a rant about all the amazing things that Colorado has to offer.
So any ideas about if I should continue trying to go? And maybe how to convince my parents to let me? (If you need anything clarified, I'd be happy to. I dunno if I made things clear enough. ^^')
   
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Re: Wanting to go.. - October 9th 2010, 01:06 AM

Just ask your parents why they won't let you go. Make sure you ask them while they are in a good mood though, or else they'll probably just get mad at you. Try and explain to them how good this would be for you. Try and offer to do some things in exchange for them if they do this one thing for you.



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Re: Wanting to go.. - October 9th 2010, 03:58 AM

Asking your parents if you can move out is such a big step that they will most likely say no and also they will feel as though you are putting a burden on other people for too long when they are providing for you. They will probably also feel like humiliated failures if you run away and live with your aunt.

A far better angle would be if you asked if you could *visit* your relatives. Some time is better than no time, right? Plus, once you're there, you may find it easier to work something out.
   
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Re: Wanting to go.. - October 9th 2010, 11:08 PM

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Asking your parents if you can move out is such a big step that they will most likely say no and also they will feel as though you are putting a burden on other people for too long when they are providing for you. They will probably also feel like humiliated failures if you run away and live with your aunt.

A far better angle would be if you asked if you could *visit* your relatives. Some time is better than no time, right? Plus, once you're there, you may find it easier to work something out.
I think Opal's right on target. You could also talk to the relatives that you would be living with in Colorado, and ask them to work out the details with you (ex. how long, what you would pay/what chores you would do, which school you would go to, etc.). That way, when you talk about this issue with your parents again, you'll be able to demonstrate that you DO have a plan, and your relatives ARE willing to support you.





   
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Re: Wanting to go.. - October 10th 2010, 12:17 AM

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I think Opal's right on target. You could also talk to the relatives that you would be living with in Colorado, and ask them to work out the details with you (ex. how long, what you would pay/what chores you would do, which school you would go to, etc.). That way, when you talk about this issue with your parents again, you'll be able to demonstrate that you DO have a plan, and your relatives ARE willing to support you.
That's a good idea. I'd probably do chores instead of pay, though. <xD I can't get a job yet.
   
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Re: Wanting to go.. - October 12th 2010, 12:16 AM

DD ALRIGHT, GUYS. GUESS WHAT. My dad said I might get to go spend a month with them. I used what you guys suggested. :P
   
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Re: Wanting to go.. - October 12th 2010, 01:39 AM

That's fantastic! I'm glad you received the answer you wanted. Have fun!



   
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Thumbs up Re: Wanting to go.. - October 13th 2010, 11:26 PM

Well done!
   
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