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Unhappy My Brother Enjoys Ruining My Friendships I guess - October 17th 2010, 09:18 PM

To start off, I'd view most all of my friends much prettier than me. And the majority of my friends think my brother is... erm.. 'hot".

So my brother flirts with them, and of course there going to flirt back. Soon enough, they're in a "relationship". I see whats really happening, and how he just plans on playing them. When ever I try to tell my friends that hes a player and no good for them, they tell me to shut up and that I'm just jealous that he's spending more time with them.

He tells them he likes them so much, how his world is nothing without them in it, all of the classic player sayings.

And then he ends it. He doesn't have a real reason - (he says they were getting to attached or some other bull shit.) it's just randomly over. And then, my friends complain to me. They tell me it's my fault, and how I should have told them that he was going to end it, how I should have told them what they were doing wrong. So they usually decide to become my worst enemy.

I told my brother I don't appreciate what hes doing. He said its not his problem and then I shouldn't player hate.



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Re: My Brother Enjoys Ruining My Friendships I guess - October 17th 2010, 09:25 PM

Wow your brother seems like a real piece of work if you ask me. I know that you have tried to warn your friends. But maybe when they come over, even if they don't think that they like him, try saying things like "I will warn you from the start, if you end up liking my brother, he doesn't exactly have the best track record as a boyfriend." Something like that.

Ultimately though, if they date, you can't control that and you surely can't control the outcome. It's pretty tricky I know, but that's growing up.

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Re: My Brother Enjoys Ruining My Friendships I guess - October 17th 2010, 09:28 PM

Thanks..

Yeah, my brothers a real piece of work.



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Re: My Brother Enjoys Ruining My Friendships I guess - October 17th 2010, 09:32 PM

I think Lyndsee has the right idea. You could warn all your friends before hand that he's not had a good previous with girls, and if they decide to date him and he ends things, that it's his fault, not yours, and you did warn them!

Also you could try to talk to him about this some more, it might not help too much, but atleast you've done all you can.

Maybe you could talk to your parents about what your brother is doing to your friendships, and ask them to talk to him about it though.

Take care!



   
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Re: My Brother Enjoys Ruining My Friendships I guess - October 17th 2010, 09:34 PM

I don't think talking to my mom will help very much, but it might.



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Re: My Brother Enjoys Ruining My Friendships I guess - October 17th 2010, 09:36 PM

Hey, it's worth trying. It can't hurt right?


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Re: My Brother Enjoys Ruining My Friendships I guess - October 17th 2010, 09:52 PM

Your right, it can't hurt.



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Re: My Brother Enjoys Ruining My Friendships I guess - October 17th 2010, 10:19 PM

Yeah mom is definitely a good idea

Set boundaries and your friends are off limit

Btw how old is your brother? Seeing that you are 13, I'm guessing he is under 18?

If so, he could be going through a growth phase where his mind at that age is set to "Find pussy, get laid" type mentality. Since he is good looking, it comes to him easy. It seems as if that's the only thing getting him girls.
   
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Re: My Brother Enjoys Ruining My Friendships I guess - October 18th 2010, 05:18 AM

The easiest way to avoid this is to make sure your friends never meet your brother.

Another way would be to memorise all the lines he uses, write them down, and prewarn your friends with this list.
   
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