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Unhappy forgiveness. - October 23rd 2010, 05:19 PM

Just needed to write down what is going on in my head...
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They say that itís easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend.

And I guess this is true, because when your friends disappoint you, youíre let down more because you expected more of them. You hurt more because you thought higher of them, so itís harder to forgive them for making you hurt when you expected so much more out of them. An enemy you expect the least of. So when they disappoint youÖwell you expected it!

But with you? We're no longer "friends", but I still consider you one of the people I'm closest to, one of my best friends. And I would forgive you in a second. And it would be so easy.

When we were friends, it sometimes seemed that the more you hurt me, and the more you let me down, the easier it was to forgive you. I guess itís because you were the one person I could never be mad at, the one person who made my life worth living. Maybe I was all too willing to give you another try, but maybe I wanted you to have another chance, maybe I wanted you to have as many chances as you needed to be a great friend. And maybe I was scared that if I didnít forgive youÖthen Iíd lose you forever.

In the end though, no matter how willing I was to forgive you, I still lost you.

But I still need you, and now I'm left holding on to something thatís long gone. And, after everything weíve been through, I would still forgive you in that one second. If you ever decide that you miss me too, then Iíll be ready to forgive you, no matter how long that takes, because youíre the one person who no matter how much you hurt me, or no matter how much you let me down, I will always forgive. Youíre the one person who I will always love.

"Sometimes we just have to accept that some people are going to stay in our hearts Even if we aren't in theirs."
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Re: forgiveness. - October 23rd 2010, 07:23 PM

what a great step forward to let this out in the open. sounds like you're in a rough spot right now. but whoever this is intended for, they need to hear it. sounds like they could learn a thing or two from you about love. it might not be enough to heal your relationship as it stands, but it will give you a bit more closure that you definitely deserve. not to mention, it just might be enough to soften their heart for someone else. i hope you have shared or will share this with that person, even if anonymously.

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