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my mom has a boyfriend :\ - February 22nd 2009, 02:04 AM

My parents got a divorce in january
and Ive been hearing her talk on the phone with
someone she wont tell me who.
When she wasn't looking one time,
I looked through her texts,
and i saw all these I miss you xoxoxo
and Were ment to be and you know it honey texts.
She hasn't said anything to me and my sister yet, but
my boyfriend thinks i should confront her.
I dont know what to do!
Please help !

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Re: my mom has a boyfriend :\ - February 22nd 2009, 02:10 AM

I would say no.

It's her decision and her life, so she can choose whom she does want to see. By telling her, you do show that you have violated her trust. Although this may not seem like the greatest thing to you because of the recent divorce. It really isn't a great way of her knowing that you know of her relationship, and it does really ruin any potential introductions with your mom's boyfriend.
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Re: my mom has a boyfriend :\ - February 22nd 2009, 05:58 PM

Hi there,

Your mom has the right to privacy in her life, just like you do. I'm sure she'll tell you and your sister about her boyfriend when she is ready. She might think that it will be difficult for you and your sister to cope right now and it's understandable for her to care about your feelings.

I'm sure it's hard when your mom is keeping things from you, but I'm sure she'll tell you everything when she's comfortable with it.


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Re: my mom has a boyfriend :\ - February 23rd 2009, 07:51 PM

I would advise you not to ask her about it. I know that this is probably bugging you and is bothering you to no end but your mom does have her privacy, too. I'm sure you wouldn't like it if she went through your text messages and confronted you about what was said. Give her time! She'll tell you when she feels comfortable enough to. I've actually gone through what you're going through right now and I can tell you that it does get better... and easier. Sure she has a boyfriend, but she needs to be happy, too! :]

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Re: my mom has a boyfriend :\ - February 23rd 2009, 08:03 PM

I wouldn't mention it to her. She will tell you when she is ready and when she feels like it is the right time. If you mention it to her, she will know that you invaded her privacy and will probably get mad. Just let her come to you.

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Re: my mom has a boyfriend :\ - February 24th 2009, 01:30 AM

I agree with the others, there's a reason your mum isn't telling you straight away. It could be that she's not ready in the relationship to introduce him to the family, or it could be that she's simply trying to protect you from the drastic change. . . at least until she's absolutely sure. I understand why you'd feel anxious over something like this but trust in your mum's decision, she'll probably tell you in time.
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Re: my mom has a boyfriend :\ - February 26th 2009, 05:47 PM

i know what you are going through not to long after my mom and dad broke up/divorced i was upset but at the same time mad and when i found out she had a bf because i asked i wasnt rude and she said yes i do . but dont make your mom feel bad she is getting the courage to let her self feel loved again its hard what she is going through same for you if you want you can pm me
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Re: my mom has a boyfriend :\ - February 27th 2009, 09:02 AM

in my opinion your mom try to live new life after she divorsed. i know you are upset from this relation. you can't ask your mother about her bf. she tells you in right time.
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