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How to cope with family? (About SH, triggering!) - November 22nd 2010, 01:51 AM

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I've had SH problems before. My parents caught me once and screamed at me for it and hit me because I yelled back. They made me cry. They sent me to therapy, and now they think that I've stopped.
I haven't. I still use self injury to cope with myself. I hide my glass as well as I hide the injuries that are covering my thighs, hips, and rib. They don't know that I've been taking a piece of glass to my thigh.
The thing is, I don't know what to do if anyone finds out.
I sort of do want to tell someone about this, but don't want to deal with my parents screaming at me for what I'm doing. They don't think I have a reason to do what I do, and maybe I don't, but when I'm upset I do.
If I do end up telling someone (a counselor, my doctor, etc), I know my parents will yell at me and we'll end up arguing. What are some ways to cope with this and make them try to understand me without it blowing up into some huge argument?
   
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Re: How to cope with family? (About SH, triggering!) - November 23rd 2010, 06:22 PM

It's hard, and they probably only shout because they love you and don't want you to get hurt x
   
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Re: How to cope with family? (About SH, triggering!) - November 24th 2010, 10:17 PM

Its hard for parents, because even though self harm has been going round for awhile, I really dont think it was very common when our parents were young, and man they must just be so upset that their own special child is doing it...you know. So even though you would expect them to be supportive, at first they are probably just shocked and really really devastated.

I think counselling would help, it would help you anyway because self harm is not really okay, now is it? At first, your parents dont even need to know you are getting counselling, but if your parents come along with you one day, they wouldnt shout at you IN FRONT of the counsellor! And you could ask the counsellor to explain to them what you are going through, if you are worried your parents won't listen to you, they will certainly listen to a professional. then they can get an idea about how to help you and be supportive, and they will probably learn it is a very common thing teens go through and with love and support they can get through it!
   
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