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Unhappy Worried for Mum - December 14th 2010, 05:50 AM

I'm really worried for my Mum.

Long story short, she had been going out with this guy for about 2 years, they are engaged etc and about a year ago he moved in, which I fucking HATED. And did until the day she kicked him out. So anyway, recently they started fighting and stuff and then she kicked him out after telling me he had been verbally abusive towards her. This is her third relationship that has gone down the toilet. The last two times the guys turned to stalking her, the last one stalked me also. She is still seeing him once a week and trying to make things work, but I really don't think they will. He's a jerk. Yesterday was the day they were supposed to get married and I could just tell she was heart broken. Anyway, what I'm worried about is that she will hurt herself. When I was younger I found a suicide note written by her dated from when I was really young, like 5/6. I'm worried that when this all falls to pieces (which it will) that she won't be able to cope, and when I move out in a year or so that she will feel like she has nothing to live for. I don't know what to do to help my Mum, and I'm SO mad at this man for hurting her this way, especially after all the shit he put me through by being an asshole.

What can I do? =(
   
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Re: Worried for Mum - December 14th 2010, 03:20 PM

You could suggest therapy. Or just hang out with her yourself. Go to the movies on the weekend, help her with dinner, make her feel lovd by you. Then when shes ready to date again make sure she promises you she wont stay with him unless you approve. Same thing happened with my mom but she started going out every night and getting wasted. That was her midlife crisis. Just give her all your love and reassure her she has you no matter where youre living.
   
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Re: Worried for Mum - December 15th 2010, 11:14 PM

Being there for her is the best thing to do.
Spend as much time as you can with her, be with her, have fun with her.
As for the boyfriend issue, perhaps its best to just wait a while and focus on enjoying life.


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Re: Worried for Mum - December 15th 2010, 11:50 PM

I think like others have said you need to basically spend more time with her. She needs it. Whatever it is she enjoys doing, even if you don't you oughta make an effort and try to do it with her if this matters to you so much.

Movies? Maybe excursion to a beach? I dono, just throwing up totally random suggestions.


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Then politics doesn't care about you either. Truth. You've got to make your voice heard, if you want to be listened to. But that's too logical for some people, so let me go a step further. Not making your voice heard, leaves other people free to hijack it by speaking on your behalf, even if they don't actually give a shit about you. That's politics. So, make your voice heard. That's not a quote from anywhere. That's just me.


   
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