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How to help my friend? - December 15th 2010, 01:58 AM

So I have a friend and she and her ex finally broke up for the final time (it was one of those on again off again relationships) about a month ago. Their whole dilemma went on for about 2 years.
After they broke up she immediately got in a new relationship (not a smart move but we all supported her anyway. we were just happy that she was okay) which unfortunately ended sort of badly.
Now she feels that whenever she is happy it will get taken away soon after. Me and my friends are trying to make her feel better and to make her not feel worthless. Any suggestions?


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Re: How to help my friend? - December 15th 2010, 02:23 AM

I think the only thing you do is be there for her. As you said, it wasn't a smart move to get into a relationship straight after leaving one and I imagine the fact that both of them ending has lead her to feel this way. In time, she might start to feel better once she's gotten over what has happened so just be there for her.
   
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Re: How to help my friend? - December 15th 2010, 04:10 AM

Start a new project with her to boost her confidence. Often if this is the situation the real underlying issue is really self-confidence and self-preservation. All she wants to do is protect herself, but she feels the only way to do that is to not allow herself to be happy. You have to remind her of what she really loved about herself in the first place. Help her to see her own value and worth again. Take her out for girls nights (not to clubs where she'll be reminded about men.. places for GIRLS or wholesome innocent activities) go for a mini-makeover.. bowling, cooking classes..things like that. Working out is also good for a boost, start a new routine with her so she's not alone, and can enjoy being alone with friends instead of having to succumb to the demands of a high-stress relationship! That's what I would suggest. NO BOYS!
   
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