Friend Trouble

[Nicole!]

So I have a best friend Sab (one of a few) and I've known her for about 3-4 years now. She has another best friend Ana whom she has known for much longer.
Well her other friend started liking my ex right after we broke up. I tried to be supportive even though it hurt a lot. Sab was trying to get them together which hurt even more because she has been through break ups too and I think she should have known it was too soon (it was only about a month later).
Well anyway Ana doesn't like him anymore so thats good. But I feel I was really trying to make sure we were still friends even though she was hurting me.
I was talking to my friend Danielle about Ana and I said things like how I don't exactly like her completely because she liked my ex. I also told her I felt like she is trying to get all of our guy friend's attention on her (others agree with me).
Well Danielle accidently told Sab who then without even talking to me about it told Ana that I called her a whore.
I confronted Sab about it and told her to talk to me first when she hears a rumor and that she had no right to exaggerate what I said to Ana. She apologized, but then she said that she doesn't trust me with Ana because Ana 'means the world to her.'

What do you think about that? That was a pretty big punch to my face to me. I mean shes my best friend yet shes telling me that she doesn't trust me with one of her friends? Does anyone else find this rude? She said this a month ago so I'm not sure if I should bring it up again but I really want to talk to her about it because that really upset me.

[minniemouseprincess]

I think your friend kinda did overexaggerate and it was wrong of her to say you said that you thought Anna was a whore. I think you should indeed talk to her again about the issue. Tell her how you feel about it and explain to her that you did not appreciate that Anna liked your ex so soon after you guys broke up. She should understand. I wish you all the best!

[Adrian]

I didnt know you were that upset about it. Think you should talk to Sab and maybe ask Ana along too if your up for it. clear the air maybe. things were said but whats the point of being on edge? your all friends with the same people its just going to be a pain in the ass if you dont atleast push to move forward. its high school, bring it up, take care of it and get over it and go to a party. yea, it could be that simple if you have enough nerve.

[OMFG!You'reActuallySmart!]

I don't think you're innocent at all in this, neither are some of the friends you mentioned. If someone likes your ex and begins going with him one month after you two broke up, I think that's perfectly fine. Many disagree with this, I've never understood why because after 1 month, you should've had plenty of time to recover from whatever emotional damages you endured. She shouldn't have known it was too soon because there's no reason why they cant be together if you already broke up with the ex. So this hype about the friend going out with your ex being wrong is silly and I can only see the blame falling on you as you were the one who was angry about that and you didn't like a friend because they were with someone you broke up with. That last part is childish, clearly you haven't gotten over your ex, that's your issues, nobody else's.

People have the right to exaggerate whatever they want, those kind of phrases where people say "they didn't have the right to exaggerate what I said", that's child schoolyard silliness. Put that silliness and arrogance aside. It's rude to say she doesn't have a right to say something yet you do and it's rude to think you have some unwritten rule where it's not acceptable for her to date your ex. There was a punch to your face but you punched first.

Chances are you may not like this reply but you have to look at the situation (as far as what you wrote down) for what it is. Look at who did what without setting blame right away and look at it from a third-person view.

[Nicole!]

Originally Posted by WOW!USaidSomethingSmart!

I don't think you're innocent at all in this, neither are some of the friends you mentioned. If someone likes your ex and begins going with him one month after you two broke up, I think that's perfectly fine. Many disagree with this, I've never understood why because after 1 month, you should've had plenty of time to recover from whatever emotional damages you endured. She shouldn't have known it was too soon because there's no reason why they cant be together if you already broke up with the ex. So this hype about the friend going out with your ex being wrong is silly and I can only see the blame falling on you as you were the one who was angry about that and you didn't like a friend because they were with someone you broke up with. That last part is childish, clearly you haven't gotten over your ex, that's your issues, nobody else's.

People have the right to exaggerate whatever they want, those kind of phrases where people say "they didn't have the right to exaggerate what I said", that's child schoolyard silliness. Put that silliness and arrogance aside. It's rude to say she doesn't have a right to say something yet you do and it's rude to think you have some unwritten rule where it's not acceptable for her to date your ex. There was a punch to your face but you punched first.

Chances are you may not like this reply but you have to look at the situation (as far as what you wrote down) for what it is. Look at who did what without setting blame right away and look at it from a third-person view.

If you've ever been in a bad break up after a long and amazing relationship, then you would know that it takes longer then just 1 month to get over somebody. Besides there was some drama so Ana knew I wasn't over him. She even told me to get over him. Its something that takes time, you can't just snap into unloving someone. She's never had a boyfriend, so she doesn't know what its like.

I realize I'm not completely innocent. My OP was about my best friend saying she doesn't trust me with her best friend. Not about anything else because I've got all that figured out.

Sorry if that sounded ungrateful, I really am glad you posted a reply to this.

Originally Posted by Adrian

I didnt know you were that upset about it. Think you should talk to Sab and maybe ask Ana along too if your up for it. clear the air maybe. things were said but whats the point of being on edge? your all friends with the same people its just going to be a pain in the ass if you dont atleast push to move forward. its high school, bring it up, take care of it and get over it and go to a party. yea, it could be that simple if you have enough nerve.

I see your creeping on my posts now
Aha yeah well it was just weird to have Sab say that too me. However Chase talked to Ana about what Sab told her that I said and she said 'I guess I can forgive Nicole.' It might just be me, but I think that was kinda dramatic. It wasn't even that big of a deal. So I guess we're on good terms now.