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I think my mom hates me. Shes not the person i used to know. I HATE HER! Shes mean and Hateful toward me. What do i do? I feel like running away! I feel like giving up my life.


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Re: I think my mom Hates Me! - January 4th 2011, 10:50 PM

don't give up your life. But what has she done?


   
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Re: I think my mom Hates Me! - January 4th 2011, 10:51 PM

i'm in the same position as you, my mother is soo nasty to me, i cant take it, also it doesnt help my anxceity. I feel soo alone but your not, If you ever need to talk about anything please feel free to PM me




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Unhappy Re: I think my mom Hates Me! - January 5th 2011, 12:08 AM

Thanx for helping me. but she is just so mean. she doesnt do anything for me. she doesnt help in any way. to me shes a butt hole. i dont like her. I hate her. but I hate myself for hating her. shes not the person i thought she was a long time ago.


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Re: I think my mom Hates Me! - January 5th 2011, 08:32 PM

Hello, Leslie.

On a certain level, I can relate to your story. When I was younger, my mom and I got along just fine. Then, when I reached adolescence, she started acting differently toward me. I'm not sure why that was, but suddenly, we weren't getting along. At all. It was horrible, and I wanted to know where my wonderful mommy had gone.

I don't know how old you are... but many people struggle with their parents as they grow older. Sometimes, parents can't cope with the fact they aren't "in control" anymore (it's much easier to give a 7-year-old a "time-out" than it is to give a 17-year-old). Other times, parents begin worrying about their child's future, and the stress of thinking about college/careers puts a strain on the relationship, even if the child isn't thinking about any of those things just yet! Your mom could also be dealing with her own conflicts, so she doesn't have as much patience or energy to do the things you would like her to do.

Since you didn't post any details about why you think your mom hates you, or what she does that is mean to you, I can only respond with some suggestions and hope one or two of them help with your situation. First, think about what she has done that is "good", and write those things down. They can be small things, such as making lunch for you every day, or big things, like driving you to see a friend across town. Next, think about what she has done that is "bad", and write those things down. Again, they can be small or big things. Finally, for both the "good" and "bad" things, write down WHY those things are "good" or "bad". For example, making lunch every day would be a "good" thing because your mom would be saving you time (don't have to make/pack your own lunch before school), is ensuring you eat well, etc. If your mom does something "bad", try to come up with something besides "because it's mean" or "because she hates me". This is the truly important part... try to look at your mom's life and determine WHY she might be acting this way. People are rarely mean or hateful for no good reason at all.

Once you have your list of "good" and "bad" things, pick a time to sit down with your mom and calmly name a few things from your list. Pick 3-4 really good things she's done, and 3-4 really bad things she's done. Place equal emphasis on both the good and the bad... so don't just start accusing her of being a bad mother. Hopefully, the two of you will be able to talk about this problem in a mature manner. It may help to have your father present as well, so that he can help support you as you read the list, as well as your mother as she hears some points from the list.





   
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Unhappy Re: I think my mom Hates Me! - January 6th 2011, 02:39 AM

Well thanx for ur help. My mom is mean bc all she thinks about is her friend. her friend is sick right now but she is getting better. She treats me like i dont exist. Like when i want to do something she wont do it for me bc she doesnt have the time or she doesnt want to. Wehn i was little we used to do everything. we used to go places hangout go to lunch go shopping. but over the years she changed. in 2007 i was being a bad person. I was in & out of mental hospitals and i went to jail one time. But they took it off my record wich was great. I think that still stresses her out bc i think she remembers how ive acted. but after those years ive changed into a good person. ive have probelms. I have to take behorior medicine to make me stay good. I hate taking meds. but when i dont take them i get out of hand. my mom calls me a agrvating person bc i follow her everywhere in the house. I have issues of wanting to be with my mom all the time. but after this year it was like ive lost her bc she doesnt do anything for us. when we need to go places she gives us the evil eye like weve done something wrong. a couple of nights ago i needed to go shopping and she gave me the face of im going to kill u or i hate u. i just needed to go one place thats it and she did that too me but i ended up going anyways. my dad gave up on her bc she never happy. a couple of days ago me and my mom got into it and i deleted her off my facebook bc she was agrvating me really bad. i didnt like how she was treating me. we used to have our good talks. but when shes like she doesnt want to hear about it i cant talk to her. i asked her if we can go shopping or go to lunch or go somewhere and hangout but she wont bc she always hangsout with her friend. she doesnt come home till dark. I just wish i had my mom back the way she was before. i just dont know what to do. shes still mad at me.


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You learn at a certain pace. Then that pace goes away. Then

you try and try to do everything you can. Then it gets harder.

Then you give up. Then its all over.

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