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Question Is it a friendship or am I being used? - February 27th 2009, 06:43 PM

Im a bit confused, I have this mate who Iv known for 6 years. We live 4 hours apart & both of us dont drive.

The bit that confuses me is she always txtxs me when she wants something, she tells me how much im like a sister & how she loves me so much.....then i never hear from her, untill she wants something again.

I get worried because she has mental health problems, although she is doing better than me in the commuunity.

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Re: Is it a friendship or am I being used? - February 27th 2009, 06:56 PM

This is a tough one, and to be honest a lot of friendships go this way and become hard to distinguish whether you are still their friend because you want to be or because its habit.

If you never see each other, then you need to work out if its more trouble than its worth keeping the friendship going, or if you still enjoy talking to her. She sounds like she needs you, but like you said thats all it is, she never rings or texts for a chat, only when she wants you. Maybe you should ask her about this and see what she thinks.

I know you worry because she has mental health problems, but you can't heal her and if you feel she uses you and you don't want to be her friend, then don't feel guilty for that because she's not your responsibility. I hope you two can work something out because it would be a shame to lose a friend after so long,but I guess you need to take everything into account.

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