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Do i stop him or let him do what he has to do? - February 28th 2009, 03:49 AM

so a friend of mine has a girlfriend he has been going out with for 1+ years and apparently this guy who is a friend of her brother's has been sexually harassing her (tripping to grab her chest, etc.) and he says that no matter what he says the kid won't stop. apparently there a few other factors as well...
1. Dad is a crackhead, so no parental options there
2. Is insolent to authority and is likely to talk his way out of it
3. Has been repetetively ignored what anyone says to him

anyways my friend wants to make him stop, violently,
now he does taekwondo with me so i'm not worried about his safety and he has a sound state of mind and plenty of control, so he's not going to do anything serious,
but just enough to get the message across for him to stop

he just told me about this today when i was at a friend's house and i told him to at least give him one last warning or find another way and he says that the kid won't listen to anything,
do i keep trying to play peacekeeper or let him do what he has to do?


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Re: Do i stop him or let him do what he has to do? - February 28th 2009, 04:54 AM

If this guy takes Tae Kwon Do, he should know that he probalby shouldn't use it in this situation. There's a whole ethical code that people who practice Tae Kwon Do have to learn and agree to before they're taught anything.
Anyway, I think the obvious answer is to have her avoid the guy who's harassing her. I would try to dissuade your friend from beating the other guy up. Aside from the legal implications (which can be severe if he's over 18, just so you know), fighting is just not something our (North American) society tends to condone. The more you can learn to sort out problems without fists, the better off you'll be later on in life, right?
If he's bother your friend's girlfriend, she should stay away from him. I'm sure there are ways she can hang out with her friend without meeting his brother.
So yeah, I'd keep playing peacekeeper. BUT if your friend ignores you and beats this guy up, you're not responsible for that.
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Re: Do i stop him or let him do what he has to do? - February 28th 2009, 04:11 PM

Yeah, the only problem is this guy has been doing this for 2 years and he's a friend of her brother's so he's always going to be around,
that and he goes to our school so he's always going to be there


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Re: Do i stop him or let him do what he has to do? - February 28th 2009, 04:19 PM

Hey Jack,

I think you should suggest to your friend to talk to him one more time about this and maybe even get the school that this kid goes to involved. They may be able to use some authority to stop this.

I don't think violence will help in this situation, and it could get your friend in serious trouble. Contact the proper authorities to get them to deal with this. If the girlfriend is being harassed, it is her job to contact the police if it's serious, not her boyfriend's to beat the kid up.

If this is done properly and legally, it will work out better in the end.

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