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Unhappy I don't know what to do... - January 30th 2011, 02:42 PM

I am turning 15 in three weeks and i have a problem. My parents split up about 5 months ago and since then i havn't seen my father especially as he had an affair. Since then things with my mother have been on and off. Just now we had an argument and she blames me and i blame her. But it's bigger than your average argument. I have never considered suicide because i think anyone who thinks that is plain selfish however i have considered calling the nspc for council housing information. I have decided to leave this idea and have got another plan.

I have to decided to live where i am, as trying to get a house placement elsewhere would be too complicated, and i am going to talk to my mother as little as possible and only when neccessary.

The problem with this is things like meals; do i buy my own? (i have a job) or take what it being offered but i can't eat in my room...
Money for school such as books, uniform, trips...
Once again, i have a job but i don't know what to do about the situation.

My main problem is that i just want to be a normal teenage girls who likes boys, has a good fashion sense(which i don't) and can go to small parties and have fun and have friends and a boyfriend...
But with everything to think about i don't know what to do...
Please give me some answers or suggestions so i know that people think the same way as me or understand what i am going through or thinkin about.
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Re: I don't know what to do... - January 30th 2011, 04:01 PM

Hey there (and welcome to TeenHelp!)

From what I'm getting with your post, it seems that you feel you must rely solely on yourself to be able to live a 'normal' teenage life. Do you feel that the arguments that you've had her are such that you can't rely on her? I would first suggest that if the relationship between you and your mother can be repaired, try to repair it. It would be awfully tough to take care of yourself at the age of 15. If you feel that it can't, I think it's a good thing that you're thinking about the NSPC right now. Not necessarily to move out, but to have their support and to guide you to more resources in your local area.

In terms of your main concerns, I say that you should accept the food being offered to you. Having food to eat is important, and it would be best not to have to worry about putting your expenses to food. I'm just a bit a confused about the part where you mention you can't eat in your room. How come you can't eat in your room?

I think the best way to go as of now to have a regular teenage life is to focus on school. If there are things that you need for school such as books and uniforms, you should accept your mother's money for those things if it is being offered to you. If you feel not so good about your situation, doing well in school provides an avenue for you to excel later in life and then have the means to provide for yourself. I think if possible, spend as much time at school, whether it be to do homework, partake in school activities, etc. It's a great way to get into social groups and make friends. Also, if you do need tips on improving your fashion sense, you can always post in the Fashion and Style forum on TeenHelp.

Hope this helps, and feel free to PM/VM me anytime. :]
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