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Ugh. My Mother. - March 1st 2009, 12:15 AM

My mother is driving me nuts! Whenever I see her she is always saying something about my boyfriend. He is African American and she HATES that. She always uses racist terms instead of his name. I have gotten to a point where I actually avoid EVER seeing her. She is always telling me she needs to get me away from him and find me a "rich white guy".

I am really getting to a point where I do not want to listen to it anymore. I have been with my boyfriend almost 7 months; and if it all works out like I believe it will we will be together for the rest of our lives. So I need her to GET OVER IT. I just hate it so much because he deserves so much more than that.

He is such a good man in general; and especially to me. It is just so frustrating that my mother can't see that. She has been with a low-life, jobless moron for 10 years. He is more of a "nigger" than my boyfriend will EVER be.

I stick up for him as much as possible but she just wont quit. I am to a point where I just want to tell my mother to F-off and never talk to me again until she can get over the color of my boyfriend's skin.


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Re: Ugh. My Mother. - March 2nd 2009, 01:10 AM

Im sorry to hear that. Im fortunate enough to have parents that don't care about skin color. Although my fathers family do care. I told them that I was dating a black boy and you could tell they wanted to use so many profane words that are geared for colored people.But that was a year ago and I am no longer dating him.
I think you need to stand up to your mother in such a way that makes her stand back and realize she is in the wrong. Just be completely firm with her but do it in such a way that you are being strong but not saying f off or f you or anything like that.
Your nineteen years old, so that I am assuming your close to moving out within the next year or so. Sorry if that assumption is wrong. So it isn't like you will have to put up with it forever.
You could always tell her that if she doesn't start to respect your boyfriend that you will move out because you don't need to hear that all the time.


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Re: Ugh. My Mother. - March 2nd 2009, 01:15 AM

Try to ignore your mother as much as possible, or at least don't worry about what she says. She is not only morally wrong in this situation she is legally wrong.
   
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Re: Ugh. My Mother. - March 2nd 2009, 03:07 AM

Thanks for the responses, they are really encouraging. I am actually not living with my mother right now. But she brings my sisters to my house pretty much every weekend to spend a night and so I end up hearing it a lot. Or she will just call me and bicker about it. Ashley I liked your advice and I am going to use it when considering the best way to tell my mom to back off and get over it. Again, thanks!


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Re: Ugh. My Mother. - March 2nd 2009, 04:06 AM

I hate when people are like that. I have 2 uncles that are like that. It bothers the heck out of me to see them even think about using a racial slur. I've dated 2 black men with out them knowing and i felt bad about it. But you probably a lot like i am and a lot of people the last thing you think of is skin color and what not. Explain to her that she didn't completely choose who she loved because there usually isn't a time why you're 100% clear on who you love, so tell her fate happens.


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