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Really scary arguement... - March 1st 2009, 05:22 PM


Last night I was babysitting my baby sister with my boyfriend. Everything was great, until my mum and step-dad came home (at 1:30 in the morning) Me and Joel were upstairs about to go to bed, when all we could hear is Neil (step-dad) shouting at my mum. swearing at her, threatening her, telling her to "f**king shut up", also said "you're a bitch, you think you're so perfect, your not, i f**king live in this house and this is all f**king shit".
After about 20 minutes, mum ran upstairs and started crying, so i hugged her for a while whilst joel tryed to calm neil down downstairs. 10 minutes later her came storming up, he was SO drunk, had red wine all down his shirt, writing all over him, pale as anything, and he couldnt speak properly. He demanded that my mum talked to him and wouldnt leave my room at all. He was swearing at her again and insulting her loads. I couldn't even look at him, I was terrified of him, I didnt know what he would do. Then he wanted to talk to me alone but I cant be in a room alone with men.... too many memories that i dont want to think about. So he got angry at me and accused me of taking my mums side, I was only trying to tell him to go to bed because he didnt know what he was saying because he was so drunk. He didn't listen at all and eventually I burst into tears, sobbing on my mum. Poor Joel, he'd only come round to babysit and he had to face all of this.
Finally they went downstairs and I could hear them arguing, but Joel stayed with me and let me cry on him, and he tried to distract me which worked quite a bit. Just talked about random stuff for about an hour until Neil came up and tried to apologise but I couldnt understand what he was saying because he was slurring everything and kept trying to say that I was calling him a bad person, and after half an hour my mum finally got him out of my room.
By the time we all got to bed it was about 3:30 in the morning, but I couldn't sleep at all, so me and Joel were talking loads until eventually I fell asleep.

When I woke up, mum was downstairs, neil was asleep, everything was so tense. But neil left to go to football and I went to work. I was trying so hard not to cry there, I was dreading coming home, not knowing what to expect. Luckily when I got in, Neil was at football.

He's coming home soon, I dont want to talk to him, he made me suffer so much last night, and my mum even more. I dont want to be in the same house as him. Yeah he was drunk, so what, he embarrassed mum at her party, upset everyone, then pretended as if he forgot it all. I dont know what to do... This is all so scary.
   
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Re: Really scary arguement... - March 1st 2009, 05:28 PM

Yikes, Hannah.. that's so rough. *hugs*

I'm so glad you had your boyfriend with you, though. Don't be ashamed, because it's not your fault. It's their business and it's your job to preserve your own sanity and try really hard to not let it affect you... I think you did a good thing by trying to avoid the conflict by being in your room around talking to your boyfriend, and I'm not sure I could have done more in your place.

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Re: Really scary arguement... - March 1st 2009, 06:38 PM

People do stupid things when they're drunk,
i've been in similar situations but with my brother rather than a step-dad, so i know its not a nice situation and im sorry that you had to go through it.

But i'm glad you had your boyfriend there to support you.
How is your mum now?

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Re: Really scary arguement... - March 1st 2009, 08:16 PM

My mum's much stronger than me, bless her she's asleep on the sofa as we're all so tired. She seems ok, but I dont know... I feel for her.
I just dont want this to ruin everything we've been working on for the past year. When I get really upset I find it hard to forgive, especially if that person triggered me badly.
Neil and I had a good relationship until now... I know he didnt mean to upset me its just the fact that he scared me so much. I didn't feel comfortable being in the same house as him, too much of the past....
   
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Re: Really scary arguement... - March 2nd 2009, 09:53 AM

Oh no.... Neils got the day off work today and its just me and him in the house.
I'm so scared.
   
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Re: Really scary arguement... - March 6th 2009, 02:01 AM

Oh sweetie, I hope you're ok... i hope he'd calmed down by then...
keep us updated!
   
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Re: Really scary arguement... - March 6th 2009, 02:22 AM

"The only way to get the best out of an argument is to avoid it." -Dale Carnegie
   
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Re: Really scary arguement... - March 6th 2009, 02:59 AM

My uncle's like that when he's drunk. I know you can just not be around your step dad. But stay strong


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