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How do I go about it? - February 23rd 2011, 01:25 AM

Alright, so I have this friend but I've cut off ties with her several months back. There wasn't much of a warning and we met on this forum I used to go to and hadn't for close to a year. Well, lately, I've gotten back on there and there's this shipper (couple) thread for a TV series that I post in. Well I greeted two of the remaining three regulars in that thread.

I just noticed, in all the old-time squeeing (but we're all grown now), that this friend greeted me and I never included her name my original post or in my correction post (I said one name instead of another. Fail. ), and I realize this makes me a bit of a hypocrite.

I'm not going to elaborate, because I don't have that many posts and you're free to stalk me. Keep in mind Dec. 24-27 (somewhere around there). Anyways, the point is, I haven't spoken with this girl in four months since I abruptly removed her off MSN, not blocked; just removed. I also shut down my internet facebook account around the same time, so she has really no way of knowing that I don't want to be friends with her anymore.

The time has come, I think, for me to comfront her, because I don't want her hurt the way I was hurt last August. I don't want to do the same thing someone else did to me to her. After four months, that person hadn't said a word to me (ie that rant, 12/24-7ish) but for me I want to say something to this girl after four months.

I guess what I'm asking is, how do I kindly say I don't want to be friends with her anymore? I'm not going to be able to ignore her for much longer. Even though my PM box is full and my internet Facebook is disabled, she's going to ask why I won't talk to her anymore right there on that site, perhaps. Or she's going to vent to those other two people like I did to them months ago.
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Re: How do I go about it? - February 23rd 2011, 03:42 AM

Maybe it's just me... but if I were in her position right now, it'd be pretty clear that you longer want to be friends. She's probably already struggled with that realization, accepted it, and moved on. Talking about it now would be like beating a dead horse - there's really no point. If you're going to tell her "we're no longer friends", do it because YOU need closure, not because you feel SHE needs closure.

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