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Unhappy UNPOPULAR - March 16th 2011, 06:35 PM

Hi, im new to teenhelp.

My problem is a school problem, im not disliked but people dont consider me as popular. i always get ignored when it comes to social stuff. even my "friends" ignore me sometimes.

Is there way to be get noticed and become popular?
   
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Re: UNPOPULAR - March 16th 2011, 06:39 PM

Heyy there.

First off, welcome to TH. I'm Hollie, a Buddy here, so feel free to PM me with any questions about anything at all, and I'll always do my best to help you.

Popularity isn't important believe it or not. I can tell you, I felt like you do for years of my life, and I wasted so much time trying to fit in that I didn't realise until recently that I was popular, but in my own way. I knew I had people around me that cared, but I didn't always recognise that because I wanted to fit in with a crowd that would have changed the person I am. I understand why you feel like popularity is key, but always remember, you have people around you that care and love you. You're popular, maybe not on a large scale, but within a group of people. Don't let yourself get tied in knots about how to fit in with people. It's not worth your time and effort trying. You're friends with people who like you for you, and who you like in return, so don't try and make people who would want you to change, like you.

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Re: UNPOPULAR - March 16th 2011, 06:43 PM

i dont like the person i am, sometimes i can real immature and make a fool of myself in front of everyone
   
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Re: UNPOPULAR - March 16th 2011, 06:48 PM

I know how you feel, believe me. I'm the same, I embaress myself a lot. But what you have to do is tell yourself, you are who you are. You've become this person and it's something to be proud of. Don't worry about what they think. If they judge, in what way does that make them better? <3


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Re: UNPOPULAR - March 16th 2011, 06:58 PM

But their are some guys who i would love to be friends with, they are always nice but they dont even notice me
   
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Re: UNPOPULAR - March 16th 2011, 07:04 PM

Maybe you could say hi to them? Ask them stuff in lessons, and get to know them a bit? If they aren't interested, don't be upset though. Like I said, you've got people around you anyway.


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Re: UNPOPULAR - March 16th 2011, 07:11 PM

i have only 2 friends
   
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Re: UNPOPULAR - March 16th 2011, 07:16 PM

What I'm trying to say, is that you don't need a crowd of adoring fans to be popular. Stick with your friends, don't wish you had more because they're cool. It's hard to put this across in a way that sounds understandable. If you spend a long time chasing people who aren't already your friends, you'll miss out on the fun you can have now. Maybe you can get your friends to introduce you to their friends so you can socialise more. Just don't focus on general popularity because it's honestly not important.


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Re: UNPOPULAR - March 16th 2011, 07:25 PM

ill be honest, my friends dont have other friends, plus latley we have been falling out alot
   
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Re: UNPOPULAR - March 16th 2011, 07:29 PM

Do you know why you've been falling out a lot?

If you want to meet new people have you concidered joining a group? Like a club or seomthing with a sepcific inerest that you like. It's a good way to do this.


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Re: UNPOPULAR - March 16th 2011, 07:31 PM

We fall out because they are not really nice people. and in my town there is no clubs that i can go to
   
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Re: UNPOPULAR - March 16th 2011, 07:38 PM

Ahh I see. Maybe you could talk to them about this?
Aren't there any at your school? Or just outside town?


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Re: UNPOPULAR - March 16th 2011, 07:46 PM

i think my problem is that im not charismatic, and i stutter alot and when i stutter i get embarresed and stutter more
   
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Re: UNPOPULAR - March 16th 2011, 07:49 PM

Ahh I see. I wouldn't know how to over come a stutter as I know nobody who has one. But there are ways of getting help with it, maybe you could ask a teacher or a parent/carer? Don't let that hold you back. Your speech doesn't define you.


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Re: UNPOPULAR - March 16th 2011, 07:50 PM

i dont mind my stutter, but its like a natural reaction to go all red, and i cant help it lol
   
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Re: UNPOPULAR - March 16th 2011, 07:52 PM

Aww lol. Yeah I get you. Try stepping out of your confort zone to meet people. It'll be hard, I know, but in the end it will be worth it. I hope I've helped you a bit here. PM/VM me at any time and tell me how things go. <3


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Re: UNPOPULAR - March 16th 2011, 07:54 PM

ok, thanks
   
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