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They don't like me... uni halls - March 20th 2011, 04:16 PM

So last term, i was really friendly with say 5 guys on my floor. I spent most nights chilling with them, weekends in town, clubbing together etc.

I stupidly got drunk and slept with one guy in the first few weeks, but we became really close friends after that and there didnt seem to be a problem.

I then started sleeping with another of the guys. Not a smart idea, but we both knew it was just some fun.

At the time, everything was still fine with the rest of the guys. The guy i was sleeping with and I called it of at the end of last term, and decided to stick to just friends.

This term, i've been really busy, and made new friends and jst not seen any of them.

But i know found out that a couple of them really don't like me, and that they bitch about me-- with the exception of the guy i was sleeping with who sticks up for me.

Just hate the thought of people really disliking me.

Is there anyway I can kinda reverse damage. Were about to start a 5 week break away from each other. but then another 10 week term, and i'd really like to make friends/aquaintances again and jst sort things.

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Re: They don't like me... uni halls - March 20th 2011, 06:42 PM

You can't make them like you ofcoarse so i dont know but i think you should try and sit down and just chat with them ya know. Wish i could help you. I'm here though if you ever need to talk or just rant etc (:


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Re: They don't like me... uni halls - March 20th 2011, 08:35 PM

Yeh, i know i can't make them, but I'm hoping for some ways to sort of make a start at creating friendships again.

I don't want to talk about it with them. They've never said anything to me, a mutual friend told me that they bitch/take the piss out of me. I'm better of just ignoring it, but really want to make a move at sorting things out.

I was thinking just kinda going in to there room, and chatting for a few mins. Kinda rebroaching chatting....?


   
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Re: They don't like me... uni halls - March 21st 2011, 07:36 AM

I'm a fan of getting to the heart of the problem. If you know there is one, then you talk about it. If you want to pretend nothing is wrong, however... then yes, I would just approach them and start chatting on a regular basis again, see where it gets you. If you notice they're acting a bit cold, ask them if something's wrong. They may tell you how they feel, or they may keep wearing phony smiles and pretending that everything is peachy keen. You're not going to get anywhere with the second scenario, so if they don't open up, I would suggest moving on.






   
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Re: They don't like me... uni halls - March 21st 2011, 05:29 PM

I agree with Robin completely. But to add to that, if you do drop them, then I would say to make new friends. Obviously. (lol) You don't want, or shouldn't want to be friends with people who bitch at you. Making new friends can be tough. But to make new friends, you almost always have to put yourself outside of your comfort zone. When classes pick up again, talk to new people. Just say something like "Hey, I see you around campus, I'm Maia!" People like friendly people. Another thing that you can do is join activities at school. the more active you are at school, the more people will know who you are. Then you have a wide range of people to talk to.


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Re: They don't like me... uni halls - March 22nd 2011, 10:14 AM

Thing is, i do have friends here, that's not so much the problem.

It's more that the people i have to live with dont get on with me. I'm not really trying to make friends with them, just get to the point where they don't hate me. And normally if people felt like that i wouldnt bother. But i feel that they hate me because of a couple of mistakes i made in like october/november...


   
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