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Aware of really mean plan, should I tell? - March 21st 2011, 03:29 AM

My friend met a guy in one of her classes and he started asking her out. They hung out a few times, kissed, and then things slowed down a lot, but they still have this small class together.
The other night she asked if he wanted to get together with her and I for dinner (I'd never met him). Instead, he wanted to get a whole group together. He said he'd bring a single friend if she promised that her friend (me) was single and good looking, So she agreed to what looked like a setup for me and his friend.
When we got there the friend of this guy I was supposed to hook up with kind of ignored me, but by the end of the night we were talking and now we're seeing each other.
This guy (that I'm now seeing) confessed to me though that the whole plan was a lie. The guy from class didn't ask my friend to bring a cute girl along for his friend; it was actually for him. He was going to play musical chairs until he was seated next to me, and his friend was supposed to distract my friend and pick up on her, and that's why this guy was ignoring me.
My friend thinks this guy from her class likes her, but I was told he is actually very irritated with her, finds her clingy, and only intended to fool around with her a few times-- not get into a relationship. He's also kind of mad that his plan didn't work and his buddy got something serious out of it.
My friend is still wondering what this guy is feeling, and now that I know all this, I feel somewhat obligated to tell her. It's such a horrible trick though and I feel awful. Should I tell her what this guy's plan was?
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Re: Aware of really mean plan, should I tell? - March 21st 2011, 03:38 AM

I think that as her friend you should definitely tell her. What that guy did was wrong, he should have just manned up and told her he didn't want to see her. And to use her like that, ugh just disgusting.

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Re: Aware of really mean plan, should I tell? - March 21st 2011, 04:05 AM

Wow... what a jerk... This will be difficult for you because you'll be the messenger of bad news, but this is my advice ): Your friend will be hurt when you tell her, but you most definitely should before she gets more serious with him. She might get upset with you, because she will be confused and upset, but in the end, she'll be thankful that you were a courageous friend. Power to you!
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Re: Aware of really mean plan, should I tell? - March 21st 2011, 04:32 AM

Tell your friend, in the long run she will appreciate it.

And yeah, what a **** that guy is

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Re: Aware of really mean plan, should I tell? - March 21st 2011, 05:20 AM

I think you should tell her. I mean, she is your friend. You have no loyalties to this guy. And she might get mad and say things like... "Your just jealous!" and all that cliche stuff, but you have to tell her to protect her. No girl should fall for a guy that only wants to fool around with them.

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Re: Aware of really mean plan, should I tell? - March 21st 2011, 05:33 PM

You absolutely need to tell her.
If you don't and she finds out you knew, then she will be mad.
Plus, that guy is a jerk, and your friend needs to know it.
Also, he seems to not like her anyway, so that in and of itself is enough
reason to tell.

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