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dealing with strict parents and every1 else - April 15th 2011, 08:44 PM

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i'm 13 and was hoping i could get some help on being treated like a kid all the time. i'm 13 and the same size as my 9 year old brother so that don't help. when we go out as a family every1 thinks i'm his age. help!!!
   
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Re: dealing with strict parents and every1 else - April 15th 2011, 11:17 PM

Although you're 13, I still consider that age to be a kid. If you want more respect and be treated as though you're more mature, simple way is to act more mature, such as do your chores as well as chores your parents normally do.

As for people thinking you look like your 9-year old brother due to his size, nothing can be done about that visual-wise. Act more mature and people will probably think you're older, this includes dressing differently.


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Re: dealing with strict parents and every1 else - April 16th 2011, 12:44 AM

Hey there. I know you're worried about your size and how people would see you, but there isn't much you can do physically. You're still in puberty, so eventually you're going to physically grow. If you want people to see you as being older than your brother, then you have to ACT older then your brother. Acting mature is going to make you seem mature and older then you actually are. The poster above me is right, you can dress as you are older too. I would do some online research, or check out some catalogs for older teenagers. Also, to ACT more mature, you need to be respectful of adults, do your chores, complete your homework assignments, use your manners, take accountability for your actions, volunteer to help out, keep up on personal hygiene, etc. You can always ask your dad more ways that you can appear more mature then your brother. In simple terms, don't act like your brother.


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Re: dealing with strict parents and every1 else - April 16th 2011, 10:49 PM

thanx 4 the advice also im not in puberty so it makes it tough.
   
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Re: dealing with strict parents and every1 else - April 16th 2011, 10:55 PM

You're going to eventually go through puberty, everyone does. Hang in there. <3
I think it's worth a try to do the other things we suggested


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Re: dealing with strict parents and every1 else - April 18th 2011, 07:46 PM

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Re: dealing with strict parents and every1 else - April 20th 2011, 07:19 PM

Eat well and look forward to your growth-spurt.

Apart from that everyone else has said what I would have.


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Re: dealing with strict parents and every1 else - April 21st 2011, 03:33 AM

Unfortunately, no matter how hard you try, some people will always judge you by your appearance. That's life. My father is kind of stubborn in that he thinks I'm "just a kid", and my sister too, but the fact is that they barely know me in a way that would change their perspective into a wholesome one. Moreover, some people don't acknowledge that you're not a kid anymore until your age hits a certain number.

If you really are older than your age says, then act in that way. However, don't be too bogged down if people think you're still a kid or treat you in that way. Some things you can't control and soon enough you'll be 19 and in college with your own independence.
   
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