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A little advice please... - May 3rd 2011, 11:20 PM

Hi, sorry I've been on and off a little... but I'm home now and I need a little advice.

I just recently talked to an old friend of mine again and we agreed that we would start hanging out again. She had posted something on her wall saying that whoever liked it, she would answer some questions. Me, liking the truth a lot more than not, I liked the status because I wanted to know what she thought. One of the things she had stated was something she disliked about me. She had stated she disliked how I care what others think too much and that's true. That's probably what got me hurt way too many times in the past two years.

My question is: How do I toughen up and not care what others think too much?

I want advice about this because I want to be a better friend. But I still need help on some skills.
   
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Re: A little advice please... - May 3rd 2011, 11:49 PM

Hey there.
I understand a little bit of what you are going through.
In my opinion, the best way to be more comfortable with yourself
and not care what others think is to list out alllllll the things that you like about yourself.
Also list the things that you are good at. Another good thing is, if people tell you a compliment, accept it and believe it. But you just need to be comfortable with yourself.
It takes time and practive, but just compliment yourself, and kust the things you love about yourself.


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Re: A little advice please... - May 4th 2011, 06:44 PM

I agree with Lynds. The more secure you are with your own identity, and the more confident you are with your own abilities, the less likely you are to be seriously hurt by what others say. Of course, even the most secure and confident people experience moments of doubt, and even they may be offended by hurtful comments - that's what it means to be human! But if you know who you are and you know what you're good at (and are honest about what you're not good at, BUT you find ways to improve and/or accept that reality), the less likely you are to take things personally and dwell upon it, thus letting it affect your life and relationships with others. =)





   
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