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Exclamation OVER PROTECTIVE - HEEEEELP ! - June 5th 2011, 01:42 AM

hi, okay so I need some help .. my parents are
way over protective. today me and my boyfriend had a great
day together and his cousins invited me to a BBQ and pool party!
but of course my mum and dad said OH NO IT'S TOO FAR ! .. it was like a
not even 10 minute drive ( my boyfriend drives )
how can I let them be a little more easy going ?
pleeeaase & thankyou
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Re: OVER PROTECTIVE - HEEEEELP ! - June 5th 2011, 04:41 AM

You won't be able to force them into letting you do things, you'll have to build their trust. This will mean going along with things, as unfair as they may seem, until your parents are more comfortable letting you do things. Ask them what exactly they are afraid of, it could be a number of things, some common ones are that your boyfriend hasn't been driving that long and they don't like you in the car with a new driver or that they don't know his cousins and don't want you around people that they barely know or don't know at all.

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Re: OVER PROTECTIVE - HEEEEELP ! - June 5th 2011, 08:59 AM

As long as you live at home your parents are going to continue to tell what to do and how to do it. They love you and only have your best interest in mind. Earn their trust tell your boyfriend to come over to your house to meet them, you are just going to have to take baby steps towards earning their trust.

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Re: OVER PROTECTIVE - HEEEEELP ! - June 5th 2011, 07:49 PM

I agree with what has been said above. You're sixteen, and still living at home. They still get to tell you what you can and can't do. I suggest that you talk to them. Figure out why you can't go to the party. If they say it's too far or they don't feel comfortable with him drving, then maybe you can suggest that they drive you. Also, maybe suggest that they talk to your boyfriends parents, so they feel more at ease with the whole situation. But Kate is right, you have to earn their trust and prove that you can handle these privaledges. Talk to your parents about what you can do to earn these outings.

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