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Angry Playing Favorites - June 7th 2011, 09:12 PM

I am so sick of my parents playing favorites. I'm the only girl and the middle child. My brother got a car his junior year of high school and my parents paid for 2/3 of it and he paid for 1/3. He is now going into his senior year of college. I am going into my sophomore year of college, I never got a car and when I mentioned getting one they said I'd have to pay for it all myself.

They do stuff like this all the time. They always rule in favor of him no matter what the situation is. I'm so tired of being the least favorite, at least don't make it so obvious!


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Re: Playing Favorites - June 8th 2011, 02:25 AM

OMG the same thing happens to me except my brother is going to be a SR in high school and I am going to be a JR... I am the only girl and the middle child, they pay for his gas, insurance, and car note ever took him to get a license.... He didnt even take the driving courses... I had to sit through the classes at school and stuff like that just to get my certificate and yet my parents wont let me drive they said i have to buy a car teach my self pay my own insurance and gas that makes me soo mad and they are funding all his collage and he doesnt have to work at all and they are forcing me to get a job now


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Re: Playing Favorites - June 8th 2011, 09:28 PM

Sometimes parents suck like that, but bottom line is you just can't let it get to you.

Have you tried asking for reasons when they do this? Make sure you stay calm and don't sound bratty when you point out that your brother has had different treatment. There might be a reason for some of it, and if you disagree make your points carefully and reasonably. Make them understand that you feel it's not fair.

Otherwise, all you can do is prove their favouritism wrong at every step! Show them that you're a brilliant person that deserves to be treated equally with your brother. Be the model child, make them regret it!

Whatever you do, try not to let it affect your relationship with your brother. It's not his fault


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Re: Playing Favorites - June 9th 2011, 01:04 AM

Parent's often help the child who needs it the most, not who deserves it the most.

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Re: Playing Favorites - June 9th 2011, 06:43 PM

So true my brother dose need help he may be a good student and has scolarships all over this country for football but I have not clue what he would do without my parents that biy has NO common sense.. Maybe in away our parents are saying we can do better and that they think we can manage on our own


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Re: Playing Favorites - June 9th 2011, 09:34 PM

Hey there,

I simply suggest that you talk to your parents about it. Tell them, in a calm way, that you feel as though they play favorites. Give them examples of how they do so. They might not even realize that they are playing favorites. Another thing is many things can change in approximately two years. One thing being, prices for everything has shot up. They might not be able to afford fronting 2/3 money for a car. It's probably nothing personal. It's just life. If you have to pay for the car yourself, then you have to pay for the car yourself. Kind of sucks, and seems unfair, but there really isn't much you can do. Hopefully by talking to your parents, they will realize what they are doing and start treating you both as equals!


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Re: Playing Favorites - June 9th 2011, 11:55 PM

Exactly. I mean my brother has a speech problem. English class and reports are nightmares for him. My mom will spend eight hours a day helping him without being asked and not giving me ten minutes of help with math homework when I literally beg for it. I take it as a compliment. She probably believes that I can figure things out without help, and my brother cannot. He should be jealous of ME not the other way around. I don't leave it bother me if I can.

You can make it on your own. I know you can. And just so you know, just because it makes sense for them to help your brother more, it doesn't mean that you have no right to feel bad. You do have every right to feel it's unfair, and it is. Don't let it get you too down though.

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Re: Playing Favorites - June 10th 2011, 09:59 PM

The same thing happens at my house except if you think your situations bad just read my thread about favouritism. Honestly i'm not sure what to tell you except that your not the only one goin' through this and that there are people out there like me that understand your situation.


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