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When to drop a friend? - June 7th 2011, 09:33 PM

When do you know that its best to stop being friends?
For the past year I've been considering dropping my friend because I'm getting tired of all the abuse I get. I mean shes fun to hang out with and can be nice, but thats about it. She always points out my flaws, is very stubborn and doesn't listen when I try and reason with her, she hits me a lot, and when mad can be very mean.

I have tried to just stop being friends but then I end up apologizing (usually I say it first) and then try again.

I guess I need ideas on how to just end things?


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Re: When to drop a friend? - June 7th 2011, 11:21 PM

Just distance yourself from her over time. if she calls you to come over make up excuses if she wants to come over make up more excuses. shell get the point and just stop trying. And stop apologizing i dont know how many times i can say that to you -_- before you even think about saying sorry just think, is it worth it? is she even worth my time?Remember, everytime you say sorry your hitting a rewind button-taking a step back- and screwing yourself over. you dont need her your better than her and she knows it. why else would she always be trying to break you down all the time? the chicks jealous.
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Re: When to drop a friend? - June 8th 2011, 01:15 AM

I believe this can be still salvageable. One thing you have to do is let her know how she's treating you and how she makes you feel. If you don't let her know that, then you're not giving her a chance to correct herself.

If she doesn't want to realize her actions are offensive, then at that point you can intentionally drift away from her and she'll know the exact reason why. Nobody will get hurt from a cold shoulder.

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Re: When to drop a friend? - June 8th 2011, 02:11 AM

It is fixable but like said above distance yourself make up excuses and when she figures it out sit down and tell her why and hopefully she will change but don't expect it

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Re: When to drop a friend? - June 10th 2011, 03:56 AM

A friend is a person who loves you for you, who accepts your flaws, and who appreciates your presence. This person is not a true friend, but as they have been saying; don't just drop her one day and completely ignore her. She is a person, and she has feelings too; but distancing yourself from her could help, just make plans with different people, meet new people! Its good to have a variety of friends, don't worry over just one.
   
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