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...moving? - March 11th 2009, 04:03 AM

Okay, here goes:
Last year, I was in a program that made me live away from family and friends for 9 months (but with other people my age, volunteering. It's called Katimavik if you've ever heard of it.) Anyway, I was excited to do it as I had never moved out before. My biggest concern was leaving my friends. I managed and well here I am today.
Lately I've been thinking of moving to another province but I have a couple things holding me back such as:
Friends again, my family (I'm on my own now for the first time, I think an out of province move just because i want to might shock them?), my job (I've started somewhere where they want me for a year or more), and my boyfriend (he wants to move with me - great but what if we break up while I'm moved out, I'd be screwed for rent, etc.).
I'm just wondering if this is the sort of think I should just say "Screw everyone else, I want to do this so I will."
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Re: ...moving? - March 11th 2009, 11:41 AM

Hey Karen!

Well, you're twenty, old enough to make your own decisions, of course, but that doesn't mean that I don't think you shouldn't ask your parents decision [gosh, like a triple negative in that sentence or something]. Basically, I do think you should look to your friends, your family, and your boyfriend for their opinions on this matter. Sure, they aren't you, but they definitely may think of a variable you hadn't considered prior to talking to them. As you've already mentioned, if you and your boyfriend break up while you're living together, what's that going to do to you financially? These are all things to consider. I don't want to make the decision for you, so I'm not really going to give my straight opinion, but I do want to wish you good luck. Let us know how everything goes.

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Re: ...moving? - March 12th 2009, 06:22 PM

Hey, Karen I'm glad that you're taking the time to think about this decision, and considering the people in your life is definitely a good thing to do. Get your family's input (NOT asking their permission, more asking advice about the process of moving) as well as your friends; they'll be biased, but hopefully they'll try to let you make your own decision since this seems to be something you really want to do. Your boyfriend should also be included in this decision, especially if he's going to make the move with you; if you're worried about breaking up maybe you should wait or figure out a way to be capable of supporting yourself, whether or not you split up that way you won't be stranded if you go. Under all that, though, it's truly your decision as to whether this is where you want your life to head right now and if moving to another province will make you happy. Good luck, and take care!

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