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She listens to no one!!! - June 25th 2011, 10:16 PM

Hey, what's up? I just made a profile, like five minutes ago, so...

You know, I've been friends with this girl for about a year and- wait, let me clarify. I've KNOWN this girl for about a year and a half now, but we recently just became friends. She's a lot like me in a lot of ways, but while I'm an optimistic person, she's pessimistic. And as a result, she see's all the bad things in the world and in retaliation, restrains her emotion in order to not feel the pain, while I see all the good things and let my emotions run wild to feel the best of it. I attempted to commit suicide about two years ago, ya see, and have recently regained stability. Unfortunately, she seems to be going through the exact same phase. The only thing keeping her alive, or so she says, is her parents and fear. It's not like she wants to die, she just doesn't care if she does. Which, I can understand, considering I felt the exact same way, which she doesn't believe by the way, and I still get glimpses of the feeling even today. The thing that got me out of my depression was my stubbornness, after my Step Dad (Who I'm not on the best of terms with) told me I didn't care about anyone but myself. But she is very easy-going, and the same thing probably won't work on her, plus I don't want her to hate me considering I have a crush on her.

So my question is should I just leave her be, and hope she sees the light, like I did, or what?


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Re: She listens to no one!!! - June 26th 2011, 09:00 AM

Perhaps you could talk to her about it, try and explain how you went through something similar, and tell her how you ended up like you are today. If you explain properly, she might be able to believe you.

If she's not threatening to kill herself and isn't a danger to herself, then I don't think there is any action you can take. However, you can talk to her and advise her to talk to someone else, like a counselor.

If she refuses help, there isn't really anything else you can do, besides be there for her as a friend and try to show her, through your actions, that life is worth living.


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Re: She listens to no one!!! - June 27th 2011, 06:39 AM

i agree with DemolitionLover,
i think the best thing to do is to be there for her. and make sure she knows ur there for her.
try and make sure you brighten her day everytime she sees u, with a smile or a joke.
show her that life can be fun.
   
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Re: She listens to no one!!! - June 30th 2011, 03:10 AM

Ah, thanks. I'm so dumb, I have a lot of emotion turmoiling inside me, and sometimes I know what to do, but then I forget it and freak out. SO, yeah. I didn't realize it probably wasn't a big deal until after I posted it. Thanks guys. Maybe I just felt like writing? Hrmm...


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