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Attention..? - January 9th 2009, 09:24 PM

I really feel like an idiot admitting this, I honestly do. & I'm not sure if this is in the right section, but someone can move it if it's not.
But basically, sometimes I feel like my one friend is constantly ignoring me, and it really hurts me...a lot, because everyone has always ended up ditching me whenever I needed them. So is it so wrong to sometimes just want to tell her that I've self harmed a lot, and that I think I'm depressed, just so that maybe she doesn't ignore me anymore? I know that sounds childish and pathetic. But I'm sick of being nobody important, and just being cast aside and ignored. And the thing that I hate is that I think I would do just about anything to be accepted. By anyone. I'd change who I am, do things I shouldn't...just to make someone SEE me for once. I act like this stuff doesn't bother me, but it hurts me so much. So many of my 'friends' have hurt me in the past, and I just dont want that anymore. I want to belong and matter in someone's life, but no one wants me around..they could care less if I'm in the room or not. And it hurts. Really bad...It's honestly getting to the point where I dont think I can take it at all anymore. Sorry if I sound pathetic..I know I am.

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Re: Attention..? - January 9th 2009, 09:50 PM

Telling her just to make her care seems a little bit wrong. I've done something similar and it can stress the relationship. I think it would be better to talk to her about how you feel that she is ignoring you before you try to guilt her into watching out for you.

Maybe you can try to search out new friends in your school or through other means such as clubs or sport teams? A lot of people meet new friends through work, but you are a little young for that.
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Re: Attention..? - January 9th 2009, 11:16 PM

Hi Amanda,

Like Mary said, telling your friend those things just to get attention might strain your relationship. Your friend might think that you're blaming her for you SH or depression. Also, it's very rare that friends know how to deal when a friend. It could really scare or worry her.
But if you're feeling ignored, you should tell her. Ask her to hang out more.
One of the tricky things about depression is that it's very hard to believe that there are people who care about you, but there are. There really really are. And it's probably not very convincing coming from a total stranger. When you're depressed, it's hard to see that.
Really, though, you should talk to your friend about how you feel. Tell her honestly and sincerely and you might be very pleasantly surprised.
I hope that helps. If you ever want to talk more, but send me a PM.


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