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Unhappy Strong trust issues - August 17th 2011, 12:45 AM

This is difficult to explain but here I go
I don't trust anyone in my life.
I've just had to many bad experiences with telling the truth that for the last 5 years I have been keeping everything to myself from stuff like who I fancy to my fears and hopes.

Nowadays it just seems that whenever I entrust my feelings to someone they just tell other people or you use them to blackmail me. So now I lie and make it seem as if I had none.
I don't and have never had a best friend because of this. None of my "friends" seem to be able to control themselves when it comes to gossiping. Its unbelievable!
What makes it worse is that I've been losing friends ,or better, class mates. Some move away and others I have alienate through my outer self.
I haven't met many other people and the ones that I have all made me think humans in general suck!
My family is out of the question because its their game to wind me up (They even tell me how they enjoy doing it) and they are very different from me anyway.

Because of this issue I have spent many lonely nights at home, crying, wondering what will happen.
I have already alienate so many and each day it feels like I am making it worse :/ I am also somewhat socially awkward which doesn't help.
Just last week someone said that after he gives me something back he doesn't want anything to do with me.


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Re: Strong trust issues - August 17th 2011, 02:28 AM

Hey Ben, I'm not sure what you're asking here but I felt as though I couldn't leave this post without telling you that you're not alone. I have really bad trust issues for the same reasons as you do. It's a hard thing to do but you have to find the right people you can trust. Can you trust any family? Any closer friends who won't gossip about your life? That's what I had to do. Trust in my family rather than friends. Friends don't know anything about my life anymore rather than I'm alive and I'll hang around just for fun. Nothing serious. If that makes sense? If you ever want to talk, I promise, I won't gossip about it. I'm a good listener and I'd probably relate to you more than you know. Please don't hesitate to PM me anytime.
   
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Re: Strong trust issues - August 17th 2011, 07:42 PM

I can really relate to this. I used to be the exact same way as you, until I found my best friend. Sometimes it might just take a while to find someone that can really understand, but if you ever need anyone, feel free to PM me. <3 I promise I'll reply.
   
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Re: Strong trust issues - August 18th 2011, 12:31 AM

Oh; I'm so sorry you feel that way. Honestly there's no easy way to just make you trust someone, it's something you go through with each individual friend. You just have to find the perfect people for you. Most of the times people who have gone through the same thing as you are the best people to confide in, because they recognize the importance of secrecy. But, I don't know who's around you. Best of luck, though <3


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