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Can someone please tell me what to do? - August 27th 2011, 01:37 AM

Hi everyone, I'm really stressed and don't know who to turn to.
To start off, I'm 16 and am living with my dad. My parents split when I was young, and I don't really see my mom. Anyway, recently my dad and I have not been seeing eye to eye anymore, be it because I'm a teenager, whatever. He loves me, I know, but I can't stand to be around him. He is extremely negative, and is always fighting with me and making me feel like crap. He has two other children with seperate women, and has to pay them child support, which I know causes him to be stressed constantly. Even worse, he deals with the stress from them and his job by drinking, and is a terrible alcoholic. When he's drunk, I avoid him, even though it's the only time he seems to want to talk to me and spend time with me. When he's sober, he's confrontational. For instance, today he flipped out because school shopping got a little pricy. But the messed up thing is I never ask him to buy me anything expensive, and the clothes I had were literally falling apart. All I wanted was some t shirts and some jeans from this hole in the wall pants store. Now I feel terrible for having him buy me just bare necessities . I'm just coming here for advice on how to deal with this, because each day my anger toward him grows more and more, and I don't want to end up hating him when I'm older.


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Re: Can someone please tell me what to do? - August 27th 2011, 04:12 PM

Hey Jordan, I'm sorry to hear that you're dealing with all that. Have you ever considered trying alanon/alateen? I think this kind of support group could really help. If you aren't in the U.S. it does exist in the UK and possibly other countries as well. Here's the link in case you're interested:http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/

Also, is there anyone you can talk to about what's going on? It might help to talk to another relative, guidance counselor or friend.


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Re: Can someone please tell me what to do? - August 28th 2011, 09:55 PM

I think you should talk to your dad about what's going on and how you're feeling. Maybe write him a long letter explaining it all. Tell him how much his drinking hurts you, and how you hate how he is sober. Maybe you can spend more time with your dad when he's sober. Tell him you'd like to bond with him while he isn't drinking. It can be hard, but I would try it. Hang in there<3


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