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Unhappy living with my sister - September 24th 2011, 04:33 AM

Ok, my little sister just turned 13 (I'm 17) in April & since then she's gone from this sweet, wanting to help & do things for others little girl, to a sarcastic, all about her brat who you can't say a word to without her saying something really hurtful to you. Also recently she's just started her period & it's gotten even worse. She's even started giving lip to our mom & when our mom tries to put her in her place she doesn't even care. She mostly gives the bulk of the attitude to me. She's also taken to pointing out how much shorter I am than her to make herself seem better than me. Most of the time I want so bad to smack her! She's rude, disrespectful, sarcastic, mean, & selfish. There's nothing I can say to her because it'll only make it worse & there's no point so I end up just walking away. I usually have very high tolorance, but i'm reaching my breaking point. Absolutely no respect for me!
How do I get her to stop & get her to respect me as an older sister? Thanks!
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Re: living with my sister - September 24th 2011, 12:21 PM

Firstly, I am a little sister too and one thing I've come to hate is my elder brother saying to my face that I should respect him. Its really irritating and makes me disrespect him more. So don't do that. And there is no way you can make her respect you

Your problem is similar to this one- http://www.teenhelp.org/forums/f18-f...ing-me-insane/
Read it, you might get some help



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Re: living with my sister - September 24th 2011, 04:24 PM

nah i never say anything like that to her face. i try very hard not to say anything unkind to her & that's why i don't understand why she does it to me. But all of her friends say she's like the sweetest person in the world
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Re: living with my sister - September 24th 2011, 04:28 PM

i get the same with my brother, who had a pretty full-on fight with my mum earlier. I'd just try and stay out of her way, and when you do interact, be polite and kind and maybe it'll start rubbing off on her.


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Re: living with my sister - September 24th 2011, 05:21 PM

In a word, puberty.

There are two things that might work here. The first is to talk with your folks about this and your reaction to it and let them intervene, and the other is for you to calmly talk with your sister and let her know what you're seeing and how it's affecting you, and ask her to please stop. Or, some combo of the two.
People respond to puberty and all those changes in different ways, and your sister's is to feel a surge of omnipotence. That's easily responded to with a gentle reminder that she's not Superman if only b/c you're not the Joker, and that turning your house hold into the streets of Gotham isn't going to be a good way for any of you to live. (Translation: You really liked and miss the relationship you once had and wish it would come back).


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Re: living with my sister - September 26th 2011, 03:50 AM

Thanks for the advice lol yeah I've tried talking to both her & my Mom. both didn't work as to my Sis's bad responce & my Mom accusing me of talking about people behind their backs.... oh wellz. lol so far I've learned that the whole "staying out of people's way" trick works sorry Dr. Bobby, I really love your advice, but i'm afraid that my Fam isn't the talking type when it comes to how they act
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