My family hates me.

[CantEscape]

My mom and I haven't gotten along ever since my parents divorced. We're constantly fighting, and right after we do she always calls everyone in her family and tells them what I did. She sometimes makes my grandfather come over and yell at me because she can't.

It feels like all my grandparents do is yell at me. My grandfather called me a disgrace to the family and is threatening to send me to jail because I fight with my mom. My grandmother told me that I'm a horrible daughter and should be ashamed of what my mom has to put up with.

When the whole family's together, they talk about me like I can't hear them, even though I can. All they do is put me down and compare me to other people. It seems like all I'm told is "Oh, so-and-so would never be allowed to say that to their parents!" or "I bet your cousin doesn't give their mother a hard time about everything". They act like I'm the only person in the world that doesn't get along with their mother. All they do is make me feel bad about myself.

I know I'm supposed to love my family, but it's so hard to get along with them. I try to, but they just make me mad. They expect me to be nice to them, but how am I supposed to respect people that are so rude to me?
What do I do?

[Childish Giggle]

See this from your mother's point of view. She has been through some tough times and she needs someone to rant about her problems. So she goes to her parents. They are just trying to let you know that your mother needs you even though their methods are wrong. Talk to your mother about this. She won't know how you're feeling about this till you tell her. You need to be there for each other. You won't see it but she must have given up many things for you. And she must feel bad about fighting with you too. If you can't do it face to face, write her a letter. And sometimes tell her that you love her even if you don't feel like that. Her response might just shock you