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Uh oh - I have a crush on a high school guy. - March 20th 2009, 02:54 PM

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So, during the summer I developed a crush on a guy that I worked with. He's so funny and makes me laugh all the time, witty, caring, nice...everything I look for in a guy. Here's the thing...my best friends sister has liked this guy for 2 years, and still likes him. He is also a senior in high school and I'm in my second year of university. We still talk, he messages me on MSN all the time and I really enjoy talking to him....however I feel guilty because my best friends sister still likes him. Also I've told myself that I need to get over it, that I"m at university and there are thousands of guys here, but for some reason I just can't stop thinking about this guy back at home. Anyway, I haven't told anyone about this....my best friend and her sister have no idea I've even been talking to this guy throughout the year....I just feel bad cause I feel like I'm doing it all behind my best friends sisters back for some reason...and as much as I want something to happen between me and this guy, I would feel SO bad for my best friends sister.

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Re: Uh oh - I have a crush on a high school guy. - March 20th 2009, 03:26 PM

I think it depends on how close you are with this girl. If you are very close, then talk to her. If you don't talk much, then there isn't much point... you don't know each other, so she shouldn't have reason to dislike you.
I don't think you can help who you fall for. I met a few great guys at uni, and fell for someone back home, and we are dating. It's to do with the person not the place.
I say go for it, it could make you happy, and it seems like you really like him.

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Re: Uh oh - I have a crush on a high school guy. - March 20th 2009, 03:46 PM

Lou hit the nail right on the head. If you're close with her, then you definitely need to keep her reaction in consideration, talk to her about it, etc. But if she's just someone you know likes him, that's a different story. You can't force him to like her and if he likes you, why not let him know you return the feelings?

If it'd make you feel better, casually mention at some point in time that the two of you have been talking, if the opportunity comes up. Don't feel like you're being a big bad bully or anything, you aren't doing anything wrong.

Him being in high school/you being in college is also a complete non issue. It's a very common combination and he'll be out of high school eventually.
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Re: Uh oh - I have a crush on a high school guy. - March 22nd 2009, 02:59 AM

If she's liked him for two years and nothing's come out of it, she doesn't have any claim on him. If you're really worried about her reaction, I'd talk to your best friend about it--since she's her sister, your friend will be able to see things in a little different light than you. Maybe she's not as hung up on him as it appears?

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