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What should i do? - March 20th 2009, 10:01 PM

An old friend of mine, invited me to her birthday. We used to be friends time ago, we don't talk much now, because, you know,people move away or start hanging with different people... But, she invited me, and honestly, and don't really want to go. I think i won't be comfortable there, i don't know anyone that is going, and although it's about her/her birthday, she won't be all time with me, because she has to give attention and be with everybody of course, and i will feel very uncomfortable. I said the other day that i couldn't go, but i felt a bit bad and said that maybe i could go, but didn't an exact answer.
What should i do? I don't really want to go, i know i will feel uncomfortable there. I know this might seem selfish, because it's her birthday, but it's how i feel. What would you do in this situation?
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Re: What should i do? - March 20th 2009, 10:12 PM

How about you say you're busy but can come for an hour after? That way you make an appearance without having to hang around too long.

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Re: What should i do? - March 21st 2009, 05:00 PM

Hi there,

I can relate to this situation completely. What I suggest is going, but tell your friend that you might need to leave early. Spend some time at the party, wish your friend a happy birthday, and if you are feeling uncomfortable, then go. But it's a good idea to at least try going for a bit. Decide when you are there whether or not you want to leave. Who knows, you might have fun and meet some people.

If you know right now that you don't want to go at all and don't want to try going, then just tell your friend that you are busy and that maybe you can hang out with them another time instead.


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