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Unhappy What happened? - October 16th 2011, 08:18 PM

Ok so my friend that i consider to be a very good friend probably one of my best friends any way hes not talking to me or answering any of my txt msgs or any of my Fb msgs im wondering if i did something wrong. i was grounded for about a month before this happened and everything was taken away so i couldn't tell him what happened I just feel so depressed and worried i have told him stuff that i have never told anyone before. What did I do?


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Re: What happened? - October 19th 2011, 07:57 PM

You should just leave a message and explain what happen and leave it in his hands. He might be going through something himself so give him space and try not worry it will pass.
   
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Re: What happened? - October 21st 2011, 05:20 PM

I'm not sure what's going on with your friend. But something is obviously going on. I would talk to him. Call/text/message him and explain what happened when you got grounded. It's possible that that is why he isn't returning any of your messages. If he doesn't reply to the last message you send him, then you need to give him his space. Pushing at the issue further will only result in you pushing him away entirely. It's also quite possible that he could be going through something personal and he needs his space. In which case, you need to respect that and give it to him. He's bound to come around in all due time. If time has passed and you've not heard from him at all, maybe give it another try. If he wants to have a friendship, then it will happen. It might take time, but it will. Try not to worry too much. I know this is difficult for you. But everything happens for a reason. Take care. I hope everything works out.


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Re: What happened? - October 21st 2011, 09:37 PM

That sucks! It doesn't sound like you did anything wrong, so I wouldn't blaim yourself at all. The people who posted above gave some really good ideas. Good luck in getting your friend back. <3


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Re: What happened? - October 22nd 2011, 04:27 PM

All that advice sounds great. But we go to the same group therapy (he hasn't gone in a couple of months) so if he needs someone to talk to its usually me because i know everything that he hasn't even told his parents I really miss him. and im concerned because I have only him stuff that I have never told anyone before.


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Re: What happened? - October 23rd 2011, 08:23 AM

There are two possibilities here I think.

The first is that something has happened to him. Have you seen him at all? Does he go to your school or anything? Obviously, I hope this isn't the case, but he could be ill or in hospital, or worse, so try phoning his mobile, and his home number. Try going round to his house. If he still doesn't answer, try and contact some of his family, and check he's ok. Just explain you're worried there's something wrong because you haven't heard from him in months.

The second, more likely thing, is that he's just really upset with you for 'ignoring' him for a month. If he didn't know you were grounded, he had no way of knowing why you weren't in touch with him. Again, I'd keep trying to apologise, and explain carefully what happened. Go round to his house if you have to, and sit on his doorstep until he has to come out :P

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Re: What happened? - October 26th 2011, 06:54 AM

He txt back today!!! Im so releaved!! so hes been incredibly busy and hasn't had much time for anything except for school and football and hes going to group next Tuesday! im so happy that i didn't do anything for him not to talk to me

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Re: What happened? - October 26th 2011, 01:58 PM

Glad everything worked out! I bet that's a huge weight off your shoulders!

I'm going to close this at the request of the OP.
Harley- you're more than welcome to create a new thread if anything else comes up!



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